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Givers, Takers and Matchers

personperson Don't believe everything you thinkThe liminal space Veteran
edited February 2019 in General Banter

A few months back Adam Grant was on the 10% Happier podcast. He is a professor of organizational psychology at Wharton, he focuses on workplace issues and has his own podcast about it. His recent work, including a book, is about what he calls givers, takers and matchers. I just came across his TED talk and thought it did a really good job of summarizing his thoughts and applies to pretty much all group dynamics.

What I liked most was his divorcing giving and taking from being agreeable and disagreeable. Also, pronoia.


  • lobsterlobster Veteran
    edited February 2019

    applies to pretty much all group dynamics.

    Maybe so.

    However dharma goes beyond the commonplace psychology of group dynamics and beyond self cherishing maitri Dharma aims to be far more skilful, eventually utilising pronoia as its active take. Great word/insight, many thanks. <3

    Most sleep assistance strategies, help us solely towards ego polishing; healthier egos. Often necessary. However the bodhi mind does not only if ever, operate towards such worldly success. In that sense Buddha Nature works outside of the usual dynamics ... some of which we are familiar with unless of a Zen-Taoist inclination ...

    1. Improved and new behaviour:
    • social cohesion
    • psychological health
    • dispersion of negative into appropriate channels
    1. New thoughts and ways of thinking:
    • encouragement of learning
    • improvement of human aspiration and potential
    • development of deeper understanding on all levels
    1. Collection, concentration and sharing of virtue:
    • the store of goodness is attracted and accumulated
    • personal contact disperses the quality throughout
    • ​the sum total of goodness is increased

  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran

    Maybe I didn't sell it well enough. He shows data that shows that givers are both the least successful and the most successful depending on other additional behaviors and he goes into how to build cultures that promote giving.

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