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Idle speech, right speech...

JohnCobbJohnCobb Hot Springs Arkansas Explorer

If in conversation with someone and you are tempted to speak evil, because of the other person's conversation or because of your own thoughts about whatever is being spoken on, or you begin to think bad thoughts, what's a nice, polite way to break free of the conversation?
I know we are not to entertain bad speech in our conversations either, so if, say I'm having a conversation with my boss (can't really walk away from him (this is hypothetical)), and he begins talking bad about a fellow employee, should I ask him to refrain from speaking thus? This question applies to any situation you may not be able to walk away from because of who you are speaking with, boss, spouse, police officer, whomever.

Shoshin1

Comments

  • BunksBunks Australia Veteran

    It depends on the situation.

    I generally mind my own business when it comes to what others say unless I can see it's getting out of hand! Then a gentle persuasive comment here and there may suffice.

    "Ah well, none of us is perfect...."

    That kind of thing.

    On a bad day though I might join in hehe :)

    JohnCobbShoshin1lobster
  • lobsterlobster Veteran

    Be polite and kind.

    If that does not work, shoot them

    eh … I may have left out a few steps … :p

    JohnCobbBunksShoshin1
  • KeromeKerome Lovingness is the way The Continent Veteran

    Anecdotes work well sometimes. I usually begin with “well that puts me in mind of…” and then I launch into a short, sometimes relevant story. It’s a good way to get the conversation onto a different track.

    JohnCobblobsterBunksShoshin1
  • lobsterlobster Veteran

    We can not easily walk away from those we are dependent on, relatives, neighbours, gang members, our past, service providers etc.

    It depends on skilful reframing
    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_reframing

    … or Noble Silence

    Or developing Right Speech skills

    JohnCobb
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