I was just reading a passage in Adyashanti’s Emptiness Dancing in which he talks about the desire for control. This seems to start very early in life, at about a year when children start trying to control mommy and daddy through shouting, crying, and gurgling. The early message seems to be that if I can exert control I will survive. Later on this feeds into relationships and managerial structures at work, and eventually the will to power, that I will get what I want if I learn to control.
But the reflexive desire for control creates some well-worn pathways in our mind, places where we look to exert ourselves, where we blindly follow our desire. It’s another area of motivation which constrains our freedom, it carries us away with passion and desire which keeps us from being truly free.
Just imagine, if you were to let go of these desires to control, that would be a profound reshaping of one’s inner landscape.