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I'm a 'fixer', but sometimes this is good, and sometimes it feels wrong. I sponsor guys in A.A. who ask me to sponsor them and I take them through A.A.'s 12 Step program. I'm confident with it because I have a good sponsor who I learnt much from, from when he took me through the 12 Step program.
I'm not an authoritarian, I just stick with sharing my experience and we work from the Big Book (our basic text) and follow the directions from there. I have a good understanding of human nature, how self centredness is the root of all our problems, and how the 12 Step program knocks the rough edges off that self centredness and allows us alkies to live with some degree of comfort without needing to drink. I don't think I do anything clever - apart from give my time and some energy - and I find the whole sponsoring thing extremely rewarding. I'm not saying I fix these lads, they fix themselves - they do the tough stuff - but I'm part of the process.
But I am a fixer; I try to 'fix' Mrs Tosh, my daughter, anyone really. I mean today, Mrs Tosh went for a nurses appointment to give some blood for tests to find out why she has high blood pressure (not my fault honest), and during our conversation with the nurse, the nurse said, "Well, if you're a worrier, there's not a lot you can do about that!", and I had to 'fix' the nurse's misinformation; I even explained how cortisol levels can be lowered by meditation, and for several hours after, and there were quite a few things we can do about our worries.
Is this just an evangelising stage that I'll grow out from with further spiritual practise? Or is it some benefit? Maybe I ought to just shut up and stop being so darned clever? Any experience of this anyone?