Best Of

I've fallen off the cold shower bandwagon recently, haven't done one in a few months even though the water doesn't get near cold enough this time of year (about 20C).

I think I've lost some of the will to do it, and I'm enjoying the warmth and ease of a hotter shower.

Though if I had any sense I'd use the opportunity of the revelations against Hof to use that as my reason and elevate myself in the eyes of others, and perhaps even convince myself, as being noble in refusing to follow the recommendations of the wicked. What a good boy am I. 😏

@federica said:

Aren't there more facets to a diamond we are admiring, than the one which has currently caught our eye?
While I am all for the exposure and public being informed of a person 's nefarious or shady character, it's always worth remembering that sensationalism sells, and that sometimes, reporters don't "let the truth get in the way of a good story"....

Yeah, it seems that currently there is a tendency (in the media, in the public, in the social-media...) to first build people up and then tear them down. Both the initial building up and consequent tearing down is probably exaggerated and unrealistic.

With people being teared down (a.k.a. "cancelled") my personal solution has been to adopt the mindset that as long as 95% of things that the person is saying sound reasonable and true and helpful to me or society AND there have not been any gross misdemeanours, then I continue to listen to that person and consider him/her my teacher of sorts. If I was looking for 100% I would cancel everyone I know, including myself.

Now I'm thinking that I should be a bit more skeptical also in the building up phase.

Even Buddhist teachers fall into these considerations. With Zen Masters, it's come to the point where I'm shocked and elated whenever I find one who does NOT have proved or insinuated (usually power/sex/money) allegations.

Seems like - DOH! - we are all human after all, fallible and imperfect.

I think in large part it comes down to honesty and transparency and acknowledging and fulfilling the expectations that the person has forwarded themselves. For instance, Wim could have done well to admit his past heavy drinking and emotional dark place, if that was the case. People would have responded positively to that. At least I would. ZM's could talk about the difficulties of being celibate and either disrobe or work to change the rules so that people know what the deal is and that they are not unnecessarily harmed.

@Jeroen said:
Interesting, @marcitko … it seems at least some of his exes support Wim and tell another side to the story.

Aren't there more facets to a diamond we are admiring, than the one which has currently caught our eye?
While I am all for the exposure and public being informed of a person 's nefarious or shady character, it's always worth remembering that sensationalism sells, and that sometimes, reporters don't "let the truth get in the way of a good story"....