Gentleman is playing Golf on a rare day off, but is distracted by his phone ringing, unnecessary conversations, 'I'll call you tomorrow..' so he loses track of where he is... he sees a young lady a short distance away, and approaches closer, asking, "Excuse me, sorry... I'm afraid I've lost track...what hole are we on?" She smiles and replies, "I'm about to hit hole 8, you're hole 7, so you're a hole behind me..."
He thanks her, and continues with his game.
After a while,he begins to think that she's quite nice.. and her golf swing isn't bad, so...
"Hi... yeah... sorry... me again.. you're now on hole...?"
"...13. That puts you on hole 12. Still a hole behind!"
He thanks her again, makes small chat about golf, then asks if she would care for a drink, once back at the ClubHouse... she accepts...
Later on, both sat at the bar, he asks her what she does...
"Well, promise you won't laugh (he puts his hand on his heart), but... I'm actually the CEO and MD of a company that makes feminine sanitary products..."
The man is serious for a moment, but bursts out laughing.
"Hey, come on, you promised!" She responds, a little irritated.
"Oh, no,I'm not laughing at you! It just that I run a toilet paper company, so I'm STILL a hole behind you!"
I don’t think the OP was asking HOW to give advice….i think it was whether you should give it at all. If I know a person is not interested (based on previous venting sessions) in solving an issue or getting out their crisis jacuzzi, ……..I politely nod, and half ass listen. Why? Venting and emotional dumping can be unhealthy for both parties. Yes, I’m your friend…I can relate when it applies, share my experience or tools….but I’m not a therapist/Monk/life coach. If one continues to make bad choices, Right Effort and Right Action needs/should be applied. If this person becomes someone I dread being around, due to the dumping….i will then bend my neck to avoid them. If it’s an occasional spill by an associate or someone I’m occasionally around…I listen and offer no advice. It’s their life and we’re all trying to figure it out.
Skillful venting and the human connection:
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/does_venting_your_feelings_actually_help
Now that this is a full on Sanga meeting…who brought snacks???
And those are leaders? My goodness! No wonder the world is getting so confused and agitated.
Braverman’s future as home secretary in doubt as No 10 investigates police article
It would seem that she has no compassion, no empathy and is full of hate ...... and to top it off... she calls herself a Buddhist...
Suella Braveman the UK Home Secretary as just been sacked... and judging by the news reports, she comes across as a real nasty piece of work...
Braverman is a member of the Triratna Buddhist Community, formerly the Friends of the Western Buddhist Order,[148] but is not a member of the Triratna Buddhist Order.[149] She took her oath of allegiance as an MP on the Buddhist Dhammapada.
I wonder...is it possible for one to hold such extreme (dare I say negative) views and still practice the Dharma ?
I find it hard to get my head around...but I guess each to their own...
I think any mental health professional needs their minds examined...!
My condolences. But I can send you some of mine if you like - I have more than enough to spare. I think they may be breeding in the sofa - my wife has accidentally sat upon and crushed several little ones in the past 3 months or so. No idea what they're eating - we've been at great pains to keep all food out of their reach.
@Jeroen said:
Help! I have a mouse in my bedroom… I was just settling down to sleep when I heard some rustling noises from some papers on my desk, and I heard a small stack of empty medicine boxes fall over, and then I looked at the corner of my bed and there was the varmint, a small brown field mouse!Now I don’t know what to do, shall I try and catch him, sleep with him in the room or go and sleep downstairs? Dilemma.
Bring out the nukes and nuke it, it's the only way
On a more serious note ...the mouse is most probably looking for food and or a suitable dry warm place to call home ...
You could try catching it, sometimes it a good idea to use a piece of cloth to throw over it then pick it up in the cloth and put it outside, when it is covered by the cloth it will stop it panicking and is easier to grab ,
You should get yourself one of those humane live cage traps and leave in your room for a while incase others are in the vicinity ...
Oh and in some cases sealing off possible entry point helps to keep them out...The common house mouse can squeeze through holes and under any gap that you can poke a ballpoint pen through...Don't be fooled by the size of its furry body...It's like Houdini how it can get through tiny spaces
@person said:
Assholery knows no bounds.
Truer words have never been spoken.