If you divide the population of the world up 50/50 by just about any parameter you'll have an uneven split between men and women. Compassion, tenderness, sympathy, loving kindness, empathy will no doubt end up with a greater share of women.
I think the next move to say that women are more of that quality and men are less is where we go wrong. It may only be a 70/30 or 60/40 split and there are plenty of men who are more of whatever. There is also often a greater variation within all women or men than there is between men and women.
Putting masculine or feminine traits onto men or women is old, traditional gender stereotyping. Or as the Krishnamurti meme @Jeroen posted elsewhere, dividing people up into identity groups is a form of violence.
@Jeroen said:
What it comes down to is that somewhere there are bitter old men entrusted with the work of government who have the gall to command enthusiastic young men to go fight when they should know better. In fact what they should be doing is seeking therapy, and both the Hamas and Israeli commanders are of this type.There is a good case to be made that anyone wielding political power should be subjected to rigorous psychiatric examinations at regular intervals. The system should be doing a better job of removing psychopaths from public office.
I appreciate the sentiment that we want wise, stable leaders. I think this solution isn't a very good one. At one level I think its undemocratic to have an individual or panel tell citizens who their leader can or can't be. I also worry about the politicization, and thus ruination, of psychology. For example, the personality trait of openness to experience is correlated with progressives and the personality trait of conscientiousness with conservatives. A politicized psychology might pathologize close mindedness or carelessness according to whoever has the power to do so.
Yes WTF...
The so called Israeli Zen teacher reminds me of what was going around a few years back "Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance......."
However it would seem that this teacher's disturbing message is "Zen and the art of killing without a conscience "
I think any mental health professional needs their minds examined...!
Random question: is it against Buddhist precepts to become part of the military but to work as the force's psychologist?
An alcoholic can work in a bar, a gambler in a Casino , a vegan in an abattoir, an advocate for harmlessness in the military.
All are capable of doing good in such circumstances but if you find the keeping of the precepts in daily life to be a challenge today, imagine how much harder it might be within a field of endeavor that pays no attention to such precepts.
If a religious movement doesn't treat people fairly, stop empowering them with your participation. Stop supporting meditation teachers of either gender who have continued to hobble their own practices with cultural prejudices.
If you need a teacher, keep searching for one that practices in a way that you'd feel comfortable emulating.
If you have to choose between a teacher or a school that is popular and a teacher or a school that broadly manifests compassion, tenderness, sympathy, loving kindness, empathy, benevolence & wisdom, choose the latter.
I have yet to have gender personally arise in my meditation as something specifically limiting.
The human condition expresses itself throughout the ages as our pandering of one polarity over another whereas spiritual adulthood offers a transcendence of such habituated limitations. This is a puddle of muddy water that no amount of stirring will clear. Its solution, like any component of suffering's cause, simply lies in a transcendence of whatever we cling to, reject, or ignore so that our interactions with any phenomena are met without those previously limiting preconditions.
We can either stir this muddy puddle or allow our self-made sediments to settle along their obscurations.
Why slumber in past & future questions when only this present moment offers the solution?
@Jeroen said:
I find it interesting that people find a kind of security in the patterns of society around them.
Security, in many forms, is what societies and other cultural components (clans, tribes, etc) are for.
You may have heard the term "ostracize". To be ostracized, in more elementary cultures than ours, is literally a death sentence. If you were ostracized, you died, bing cut off from your group. One of the reasons we have the social ills we have is we've departed from those kinds of things.