I saw a quote on a twitch stream today.
"I am a gamer not because I don't have a life, but because I choose to have many."
@Bunks said:
Can I suggest you're perhaps over thinking this?
You may. I am.
I overthink because I suffer.
I suffer because I overthink.
As it pertains to relationships, this may be a knot a step or so ahead of where I perceive myself capable of untangling.
I overthink because I suffer.
I suffer because I overthink.
(In time) this too shall pass @FleaMarket ....
Shoshin1
In a nutshell answer to all the questions
I guess one would conduct oneself in a Sati, Metta and Karuna manner, that is, being mindful, using loving kindness and compassion to overcome difficulties and to connect with others and this from what I gather comes from ongoing practice...
Tis said that 'Love' conquers all ...
“The time of our delusion does not obstruct the time of our realization. Our practice is not in order to attain realization. Practice itself is the actualization of realization."
~Dogen~
Shoshin1
Can I suggest you're perhaps over thinking this?
Just try to be nice to people.
But if they're not nice in return then it probably depends on the relationship as to how you respond. I have a tweenage daughter who can be a right little s**t at times but she's my daughter so I stick it out and love her regardless. However, if it were a friend behaving in such a way I'd give them a few chances (apparently the Buddha suggested 7) then kick 'em to the curb......I've had to do this once or twice before.
But that's just me.
Bunks