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Starting school and nervous to socialize
I'm starting college and I always manage to make myself feel like a freak around large groups of people, I always get the feeling everyone is staring at me. 
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So part of the question you should ask yourself is what will I need to do in the future, in terms of associating with people, based on my chosen field. And then make that part of your goal-work.
Good luck in college!
Best wishes in your college career.
I am scared. I am sad. I am uncertain. I could use some help. It seems to me that coming to a Buddhist venue to seek perspective is the only calling card necessary in Buddhism.
not to mention Buddhism includes helping others.
I made the mistake of going to college in a relationship where I went home every weekend. I didn't make any friends, really. I kinda shot myself in the foot there.
The question from a buddhist perspective would be: how do I work with these mentations that I am a freak?
no one cares about you, they are too busy being self involved with their own personal dramas. or they thinking the same stuff. they are nervous, scared, worried about the future, probably looking for a g/f or b/f or drugs or drinking, etc.
if i were you i'd meditate more and gain insight into the workings of the mind. once you understand the mind then you won't have much problems throughout life. well you'll have real problems rather then the ones you create in your mind.
the best way to socialize is to find people with similar interests or just do it.
How is this "Buddhism for Beginners"?
Well if you do not feel this question lies in your Buddhist lifestyle then you did not need to respond and if a moderator feels this question should be moved to onother thread then they will move it.
It is not our place to say how a person should phrase a question, our place is to answer that question to the best of our ability. I do not phrase every question that I have with the word Buddhism in it. I do try to see how Buddhism may relate to that question. That is all we can do.
I remember it for some reason reading it some where, time, and thats why I havent told anyone ever about my beliefs or practices
Now I am more relaxed and I can see whats in common and the needs below the ideology.
Friends are usually found by participating in activities with people of similar interests. College offers a variety of leisure-time activities and small clubs to choose from , and there are often organizations in the community as well, like enviro groups, hiking groups, etc. Sometimes there are special dorms, like language dorms, that you can choose to live in. Friendships tend to evolve naturally in that type of setting. And don't forget -- Buddhist sanghas can be a source of friends.
Most people don't have oodles of friends. Many people consider themselves lucky to have a core of a couple of close, supportive friends in whom they can confide, and an outer circle of more casual friends with whom they may share one or two special interests.
College should be both an academic learning experience and a life learning experience, with the latter being of far FAR more importance than the former. Most of all, you should endeavor to have fun, explore who you are and what you like and don't like, and relax. I didn't do much of any of that when I was in college, and I've regretted it. Early adulthood is the time to figure yourself out. Surprise yourself. Surprise others! If everybody else is getting a tattoo (or 50), don't get a tattoo. If everybody else has something pierced, don't get pierced. If everybody else smokes, don't smoke. You might be amazed what you find out about yourself, but whatever it is, it's all good...