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A few places now I've read that Buddhism teaches us to give up hope because it's always tied to fear and often leads to disappointment. I'm fine with that, but what do we give people in place of hope?
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In a strange way, one soon realises to the way to true happiness is not to rely on hope!
I detest the word 'Hope'. It's often associated with Blind faith, or 'false'.
I keep reminding people that Pandora was given a box containing all the evils of the world, and the one which remained trapped, was 'Hope'.
Two things:
One: It's stuck in a dark place, locked in and nowhere to go.
Two, it isn't an exception to "All the evils of the World". It was in there, with them, as one of them.
Hope is a natural desire, such as 'I hope I wake up tomorrow', or 'I hope the meeting goes well'... but that puts a dependency entirely on outside factors, many or most of which are completely beyond our control.
To discard Hope, is to take control, and be a bed-fellow of active acceptance.
Practice nourishes experience, and experience trumps belief and hope.
Mind you, it took me about 5 years to start to gain confidence. I do not know if I am a slow learner or just average.
One of the trickiest things in being a Buddhist is trying to NOT hang onto things. Things like hope, like wanting certainty, like belief (which is a desire for "security" in our knowledge of how things supposedly work). All you can really do is observe the inner struggle, and at some point it starts to become more amusing than exasperating. I am sure there are many on this forum who are well past the point I am at, and can comment on it much clearer.
Hope can be taken as a reverse of Fear. Only Fear is getting attached to a negative vision of the future, while Hope is getting attached to a positive version of future. In either case, while we fundamentally don't and can't know the future, we make up some idea about it and then live our lives as if that idea were true, losing touch with the way things really are. We become attached and attachments typically lead to suffering.
But "hope" in a more Buddhist sense of the word can be taken as a kind of confidence that no matter what the future brings, one can find and live one's true nature. That is, regardless of what's happening "outside" of us, there is an understanding, realization "inside" that makes it alright. In a way, that truer kind if hope is giving up all hope about things turning out a certain way and finding solace in just this moment, in the knowledge that there is a correct action in it, whatever the moment is.
"Be The Change You Want to See in The World" (that is a form of hope)
How one reacts when that hope isn't realized as fast, or as completely, or ever - is where the attachment to hope comes into play. That's what should be avoided (IMO) is the attachment and craving that can go along with hope when we think our hopeful thoughts (wishful thinking) can control or affect reality- when in the end, it doesn't. We must BE the hope....
Wow, not even done with my first cuppa coffee this morning... did that make sense?? LOL
The middle way works. You must adopt and practice of course.
It is also guaranteed that difficulties occur in life. We can increase our skilful means to deal with them.
It is like smiling at people. People respond better. They may smile back. You can try it. You don't need hope. You won't be dissapointed.