I came across this on another site and I thought it would resonate with a lot of starting Buddhists, so I thought it might be worth discussing here...
Since a few months I have become very interested in Buddhism. One thing bothers me and I wonder how you cope with it.
I like life. I sometimes like desire and sometimes I like to live in the past or the future.
I understand that desire is treacherous and lying, then the past and the future are illusions and that it is 'now' what matters, that all kinds of experiences and feelings keep me trapped in samsara. But I also like some of those experiences and feelings. No, I don't explain it well. I will give an example:
I became a father for the second time two weeks ago. And I hope my daughter will have a good life. With suffering but also with pleasure. I even hope that her life will be 'worth it'. Yes, this is a better explanation. The Buddha gives the feeling that life is not worth it. That we have to do our best to escape from it. I know I'm exaggerating. Because the Buddha also lets us understand life better and therefore appreciate it better. But according to him, samsara remains a circle to escape. Detachment is the motto, but sometimes I enjoy attachment so much.
Do you understand what I mean? Does a good Buddhist allow self-attachment or does it ultimately remain something bad? I find it difficult to become part of a religion that tells me that I can love my daughter, but that I had better transcend that kind of feeling.
It struck a chord with me, because I think so many people think like that. There are quite a few experienced Buddhists here, we can probably come up with a few answers.
If you met this man, what would your response to him be?