I have been coming across this message in a few places recently... that because you observe them, you are not your feelings or your thoughts. That we should try to take a little distance from these very intimate things within us that motivate us to do so many things in our lives, because we unhealthily engage in my-making with them.
Our mind seems to seize upon a new emotion or thought as it enters, enchanted with the newness, and quickly gets carried away by it and the subsequent things it generates. Each thought popping up generates new thoughts, which are seized upon in turn, like a dog chasing soap bubbles being blown across a lawn.
Taking a step back and seeing these things as components within ourselves, mental objects that come and go, allows us to see ourselves in a new light. Their exact nature and their coming and going are based on our conditioning, our youth experiences, our trauma’s.