I had an interesting discussion this morning with a psychologist acquaintance of mine, and it was about the extent to which stimulation is necessary in our lives. I was telling about my experiences with acceptance, and in return he told a story about how he had beaten his daughter to the jampot the other day at lunch, and how she had been determined on subsequent days to not let this happen again. He was holding the view that playful teasing and competition could stimulate behaviour, and that this was healthy.
Now, i don’t really agree with that. It seems to me cruel and unusual to ‘stimulate’ someone by withholding from them something that they want. I don’t think I would particularly enjoy this myself. But the wider point that people need stimulating seems more interesting, when you start letting go of desires a whole lot of motivation disappears from your life. So do buddhists need stimulating?
What do you think?