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tantric sex and rituals, and the worshipping of gurus in the context of ahimsa

VincenziVincenzi Veteran
edited June 2011 in General Banter
the practices described in the kalachakra sutra, and the authoritarian posture from which any guru/lama exposes such nonsense, are contrary to the very simple concept of ahimsa.

if this suspicious/secretive practices is what Buddhism is about (note: I don't think it is), then the Jains may be more closer to the truth! (with their emphasis on ahimsa).
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  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Are you basing this on a commentary of the kalachakra? A sex manual? Or do you have the kalachakra text?

    You have a rigid fantasy of authority. Your father and mother had authority over you and they had respect for you as well. I think 'authority' to you is a loaded word with a loaded meaning. YMMV (your mileage may vary) compared to mine.

    You are suspicious. Tantrikas are secretive. I can't answer for YOU what buddhism is about. Why do you feel threatened by others practices? In america sometimes they say you are not a real american because of your politics. This is same foolish.
  • VincenziVincenzi Veteran
    edited June 2011
    @Jeffrey

    you are the first member of this forum that I have considering blocking (don't know if that's possible).

    your last posts are too bitter and far away from ahimsa.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Well thanks for being so honest. I can't answer for YOU what ahimsa means. Nor what is real buddhism. You decide for yourself. We all have angry emotions towards eachother and maybe you picked up on some hostility from me. For that I am regretfull. I didn't mean the father and mother thing to be disrespectful. It seems a sound argument to me for how authority may be constructive, don't you think?
  • I think this idea of viewing Buddhist practice from the perspective of ahimsa, and using that as a standard, is interesting.
    But if ahimsa is to be the standard, then this business of realized gurus being somehow above "mundane" morality has got to go. I would think that's it's still possible to practice higher yoga tantra without having teachers who are outside the law or exempt from the precepts.

    Jeffrey, can we agree that reforms are needed? There's nothing wrong with introducing reforms, is there? Western religions need reforms, too. Authority is sometimes abused in TB (and Zen), let's leave it at that. Nothing that some reforms can't take care of.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    I think reforms are needed. In my understanding of the word morality.. Nobody is above it. I seek further clarification of actual Tibetan buddhists on this matter in order to determine if it is *I* who has misunderstanding.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    For the first part that was no disrespect towards you either. a lot of what Thao has been posting is from a sex manual it was discovered by person I think.
  • edited June 2011
    There are passages in the sex manual that seem to refer to tantric practices, though. The thing about not injuring 12-year olds. It's a little weird. No, it's a lot weird. The idea of writing a sex manual that discusses sex with 12-year olds...it's hard for me to believe that that is what was intended. It makes more sense to read it as a digression into advise for tantric practitioners, the way Thao framed it.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Either way it doesn't make sense compassionate warrior. To say that a sex manual involving minors is unlikely is kinda naive. There are many instances of common pornographic etc involving minors that is not based on religious practices. In fact I imagine that the like is far more common. Including religion in sex is itself exotic. Then we throw in sex with kids and say that is likely the combination of the two? Seems far fetched.
  • @Jeffrey

    I think we have reached an understanding.

    @compassionate_warrior @Jeffrey

    maybe the kalachakra is a fringe practice, and if so it will be easier to "outlaw".
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    There are passages in the sex manual that seem to refer to tantric practices, though. The thing about not injuring 12-year olds. It's a little weird. No, it's a lot weird. The idea of writing a sex manual that discusses sex with 12-year olds...it's hard for me to believe that that is what was intended. It makes more sense to read it as a digression into advise for tantric practitioners, the way Thao framed it.
    Let me list the table of contents again, judging by this it doesn't seem like advice for tantric practitioners.


    Contents

    Preface..............................................................7
    Introduction by Jeffrey Hopkins......................................9
    1 Gedün Chöpel: Provocative Iconoclast..........................11
    2 Sources for the Treatise on Passion...........................33
    3 Equality of Women.............................................49
    4 Sixty-Four Arts of Love.......................................63
    5 Sexual Pleasure and Spiritual Insight.........................95
    6 Ethic of Love................................................121
    7 Enhancing Female Pleasure....................................135
    8 Classificatory Schemes.......................................153
    Treatise on Passion by Gedün Chöpel................................165
    Editions of the Text...........................................166
    Prologue.......................................................167
    1 Types of Men and Women.......................................171
    2 The Passionate Relationship..................................179
    3 Time.........................................................189
    4 Essence......................................................195
    5 Women of Various Places......................................203
    6 Embracing....................................................209
    7 Kissing......................................................213
    8 Pinching and Scratching......................................217
    9 Biting.......................................................221
    10 Ways of Pleasure............................................223
    11 Playing with the Organ......................................229
    12 Moving To and Fro and Pressing..............................233
    13 Erotic Noises...............................................243
    14 The Deeds of the Man Done by the Woman......................247
    15 Methods of Copulation.......................................251
    16 Uncertain Acts..............................................255
    17 Helpful Techniques..........................................259
    18 Conclusion..................................................269
    Bibliography.......................................................277

  • @person

    it does sound as tantra... as practiced and promoted in the west.
  • edited June 2011
    @person Yeah, I know. But there are short passages, one or two quoted by Thao, that discuss sex with 12-year olds, and tantric texts also call for sex with 12-year olds, so one can put 2 and 2 together. Or....maybe not.

    Vincenzi, how do you know how tantra is practiced and promoted in the West? I'd never heard of it until these discussions began to crop up months ago.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Why do you say that Vincenzi? Do you have insight into how tantra is practiced in the west?
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited June 2011
    compassionate warrior, nobody has posted ANYTHING from the kalachakra. Its all from commentaries.

    The discussion has revolved around the kalachakra whereas it should be made clear that these are commentaries.
  • @Jeffrey

    in mass media (movies, tv), tantric buddhism is mentioned mostly as a way to "enhance sexual performance"... and nothing else (sometimes as an "alternate path towards nirvana"; but the mass media focuses only on sexual aspects).
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Vincenzi,

    How would the mass media know how tantric buddhism is practiced? You cannot and should not form an impression of a topic only from the mass media. This is how stereotypes and intolerance come about.
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    @person

    it does sound as tantra... as practiced and promoted in the west.
    We're talking about tantric ritual with a consort in TB, not the kama sutra. Maybe people do practic and promote it as a way to promote sexual pleasure in the west idk but that would be a perversion of the true intent of the practice and is the fault of the people promoting that view.
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    @person Yeah, I know. But there are short passages, one or two quoted by Thao, that discuss sex with 12-year olds, and tantric texts also call for sex with 12-year olds, so one can put 2 and 2 together. Or....maybe not.
    I'm quite sure, since Chopel was a former monk, that the book is based off of tantric practice, thus explaining the connection, but that doesn't mean its intended as advice for tantric practice. Or maybe that was its intention, but that still doesn't mean its correct and the way tantra is supposed to be practiced.
  • edited June 2011
    @Jeffrey Right. I understood that the text calls itself "commentaries", when in fact it's part of the highest Kalachakra practice. The highest, secret part. Didn't Thao post that a few threads ago?

    @person I got the impression that Chopel was admonishing his (tantric practitioner) colleagues for injuring 12-year olds, and he was proposing an alternative. But it is a bit out of place in a sex manual. (Makes you wonder who he thought his intended audience would be.) That's where the confusion is coming from, and of course, it's open to interpretation.
  • @Jeffrey @person

    I have searched for a more accurate description of tantra... but it went from "a practice to enhance sexual performance and enjoyment for pseudo-spiritual reasons" to "a practice of institutionalized sexual abuse that comes from an authoritarian position".
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Vincenzi,

    you may define it how you wish but others may not understand your assumptions

    Vincenzi,

    When you said IS promoted in the west. IS. That means that you would have to have special knowledge of how it is practiced in the west. Therefore I asked you how you came by this insight. You replied: movies and tv :confused:
  • @Jeffrey @person

    I have searched for a more accurate description of tantra... but it went from "a practice to enhance sexual performance and enjoyment for pseudo-spiritual reasons" to "a practice of institutionalized sexual abuse that comes from an authoritarian position".
    Source, please?

    Vincenzi, what kind of movies and tv programs do you watch?? Maybe Italy (or Europe) is different from the US. I haven't seen programming like that.

  • @person That's a lot to plow through. Could you quote the passage that defines tantra?
  • VincenziVincenzi Veteran
    edited June 2011
    @Jeffrey

    it is not necessary to say... that how tantra is "practiced" in the west isn't the correct way.

    however, the "correct" way may not be that useful (specially for the ultimate goal of nirvana).

    westerners think tantra is something like this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Guru_(2002_film)
  • That film sounds pretty funny. We don't get Bollywood films in the US much at all. Thanks, Vincenzi.
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    @person That's a lot to plow through. Could you quote the passage that defines tantra?
    Time to try to get some sleep. Maybe tomorrow I can come up with a short passage that can sum up tantric practice, though I'm not really sure a brief passage would really do any justice.
  • Agreed. Suspend discussion until tomorrow. Time out!
  • ThaoThao Veteran
    Are you basing this on a commentary of the kalachakra? A sex manual? Or do you have the kalachakra text?

    You have a rigid fantasy of authority. Your father and mother had authority over you and they had respect for you as well. I think 'authority' to you is a loaded word with a loaded meaning. YMMV (your mileage may vary) compared to mine.

    You are suspicious. Tantrikas are secretive. I can't answer for YOU what buddhism is about. Why do you feel threatened by others practices? In america sometimes they say you are not a real american because of your politics. This is same foolish.

    Jeffrey, The Commentary of the Kalachakra Tantra is not the sex manual, it is used only for those taking inititation. The sex manual is Chopel's work.

    We are not children; we are grownups, and as grownups we should be treated with respect, and well, so should children.

    Warning others of the dangers of tantric practice and harm by gurus is not feeling threatened.
  • ThaoThao Veteran
    @person Yeah, I know. But there are short passages, one or two quoted by Thao, that discuss sex with 12-year olds, and tantric texts also call for sex with 12-year olds, so one can put 2 and 2 together. Or....maybe not.

    Vincenzi, how do you know how tantra is practiced and promoted in the West? I'd never heard of it until these discussions began to crop up months ago.
    I gave a list of what is in the Commentary on the Kalacakra Tantra. It is not the list of contents that is in the sex manual, and it does include visualizing sex with a 12 year old and it does tell a person exactly how it is practiced, plus it says that ultimately one needs a real consort to reach enlightenment. This is all in the other thread.

  • ThaoThao Veteran
    @person That's a lot to plow through. Could you quote the passage that defines tantra?
    Time to try to get some sleep. Maybe tomorrow I can come up with a short passage that can sum up tantric practice, though I'm not really sure a brief passage would really do any justice.

    There are a lot of Tantric practices. I think people should buy the book I have that I got on Amazon. You will never find the same practices online. After all, they are secret, so don't expect to find them.
  • The question has come up before, what is tantra, what is the definition of the word, "tantra", and the answer has been elusive. People come up with a literal translation, but that's not what the gist of the question is about. How to sum up the tantric practices in a nutshell? I ventured that tantra was about transformation, which it does seem to be. (As in the alchemical process of transforming lust into spiritual bliss, or visualizing oneself as Chenrezig). I'd be interested to see what Berzin says. Hopefully it won't be the same literal translation.
  • tanha (thirst) cann't be transformed to spiritual bliss... ever.
    it can only be extinguished so that spiritual bliss arises.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited June 2011
    "We are not children; we are grownups, and as grownups we should be treated with respect, and well, so should children."

    An authority figure such as a judge, does not prohibit that they treat one with respect.

    Vincenzi, I was referring to is theatened I believe as are you not in relation to sexual abuse as any reasonable person would find sexual abuse abhorent. But also threated because it is a take on buddhism different from the one you are accustomed to. In effect you two believe you can dictate what is called 'buddhism' so as to rule out practices which use the energy of the kleshas as spiritual food.

    Nobody is arguing that we should tolerate sexual abuse. Nobody.
  • ThaoThao Veteran
    Jeffrey, can you prove that Buddha taught the tantras? If you can then I will leave the issue alone.

    comparing a lama to a judge. hmmmm.

    if you don't mind a teacher running your life, then fine. but no teacher is going to run my life, not even my husband and so we are on equal grounds. but if you like to kowtow to a lama and obey him/her, then what can I say?
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited June 2011
    "Jeffrey, can you prove that Buddha taught the tantras? If you can then I will leave the issue alone."

    I haven't stated that he did. We don't know if buddha taught the Pali Canon. We don't know if buddha existed.

    I don't care if buddha existed or not. Zen master said buddha is shit on a stick. To reduce grasping to buddha. I care what helps in my life. And helps others to share my joy.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    Thao if you work in a dynamite factory would you follow the authority of your supervisor or would you light up a cig?

    Thats basicly tantra for you :)
  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    *whew* I can't keep up with you guys! Just for clarification, in case any is still needed, I took the OP to be referring to the "Commentary" text, which in my understanding, is the esoteric aspect of the Kalachakra tantra. Even though it calls itself a "Commentary", what it's presenting is the secret rituals that are a higher stage of the "public" aspect of the Kalachakra.

    I also understood the OP to be commenting on the practice of viewing the guru as second only to the Buddha, and trusting him/her with everything, including one's life and well-being. I think this is what was meant by "authoritarianism". This is a requirement for receiving the higher tantric teachings and empowerments, but the concept has been misused. I think the OP is questioning whether it's appropriate to have it anywhere in Buddhism. It's a fair question.

    I think there are too many teachers in some Buddhist traditions who really aren't concerned with ahimsa. Not to mention the monks in the monasteries who abuse the novices. I like Vincenzi's occasional reminders, in any context, of the fact that Buddhism is supposed to be about ahimsa and compassion.
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    "Even though it calls itself a "Commentary", what it's presenting is the secret rituals that are a higher stage of the "public" aspect of the Kalachakra"

    Allegedly. And if you are correct then they aren't secret anymore. The other possibility is that the commentary is incorrect regarding what the secret rituals are.

    I liked this post in the other thread:

    "They strike me as very kind and holy beings, not just nice but genuinly holy. I have a hard time accepting that in public they are kind, wise, helpful people while behind closed doors they are secretly child rapists and abusive, sexual deviants. The allegations have been made against the tantric commentary and practices in a feudalistic culture (it used to be common for people to get married at 12 or younger). I haven't seen any evidence here against any particular lamas or notion that this continues today and I think it takes repeated, specific allegations to be able to paint with such a wide brush."
  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    I've read the Chopel book, because those passages about 12-year olds kept coming up quoted in different discussions or analyses of tantric practice. So I wanted to see the context of what Chopel really said. And I must say, it did seem out of place, this sudden riff on sex with 12-year olds. He also gives instruction on how to prepare a 12-year old for sex (clearly in the text it's referring to a girl's first sexual experience). I think this has ritual implications. There's a tradition in India of worshipping a virgin (defined as a girl between 10 and 12), then "ritually deflowering" her, when she reaches 12 years of age. So it could refer to that (this is also practiced by Tibetans in India), and to tantric ritual. Or it could, I suppose, refer to sex with a 12-year old to whom one has an arranged marriage. I guess we can't know for sure, but Jeffrey Hopkins, who translated the book from Tibetan to English implies in a lengthy commentary in the 1st half of the book, that these passages refer to tantric ritual, explaining that Chopel was a tulku, head of a monstery, son of a tantrika, and was familiar with the rituals.

    Chopel also insists that premature sex matures girls, while early sex is bad for boys, it's best for boys to wait until they're 21. Seriously. And he defends himself, saying that this is what the elders say. Clearly, he was criticized for this belief, as Hopkins explains, so he included an emphatic defense in the text. Make of that what you will. I think it's a very convenient belief for pervs and people who require 10-year olds and 12-year olds for sex rituals.
  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    That was a good comment, Jeffrey, I meant to respond to that. I'll have to find the thread from this sudden forest of threads that's sprouted on related subjects. Personally, I've never encountered a lama who was kind, wise or particularly helpful. They're kind of a cold bunch. I have no trouble believing that some have a dark side. (I said, "some".)
  • JeffreyJeffrey Veteran
    edited June 2011
    Dakini,

    I don't think we can necessarily extrapolate worshipping virgins to tantric buddhism due to the fact that both are Tibetan. That would be akin to comparing Branch Davidians military buildup to local community Christian churches. Imagine if you were a small town Christian and an asian man came into your church and asked where the automatic weapons are stored?

    So Jeffrey Hopkins says that Chopel is referring to tantric ritual? Who is Jeffrey Hopkins? Can this be further vefiried as factual content that Chopel is a tulku? Who proclaimed that he is one? Couldn't anyone proclaim that they are a tulku? What if Jeffrey Dahmer had proclaimed that he was a tulku?

    I would be interested in how this material relates to the tantric buddhism which my teacher has practiced? Is she, my teacher, a participant in the worship and deflowering of 12 year old girls? I doubt it based on my conversations with my teacher. I would find that to be less likely than some of the members on the forum members of the mafia but it is possible. Thats just my opinion.

    I remain skeptical that tantra is practiced in the 21st century with 12 year old girls.

  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    Maybe I haven't been clear. I was saying the instructions about 12-year olds looks to me like it's aimed at ritual use, ritual of any kind.

    And no, we don't know for sure. I questions Hopkins' assumptions myself, when I read the book. Hopkins is a well-known translater and student of the Dharma, look him up on Wiki, if you need to.

    Chopel was discovered to be a tulku in his youth, according to custom, but he renounced his tulku status and gave back his robes. He said he'd been "living a lie", and I guess he just wasn't cut out for the monastic life.

    Well, this is the $50,000 question: are these rituals still practiced, or is this being passed on as lore, or as completion of the teachings of a certain lineage, not intended to be practiced? We don't know. I've said several times since Thao initiated this topic that we don't know if these rituals are still practiced. And I seriously doubt they were ever practiced in the West. Not "live" anyway, but quite possibly via visualization.
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think The liminal space Veteran
    That was a good comment, Jeffrey, I meant to respond to that. I'll have to find the thread from this sudden forest of threads that's sprouted on related subjects. Personally, I've never encountered a lama who was kind, wise or particularly helpful. They're kind of a cold bunch. I have no trouble believing that some have a dark side. (I said, "some".)
    Interesting, I'm wondering if the experience is a totally different one in this tradition for men and women. There are many women that practice TB and several well known western TB nuns. I've been around TB for 15 years and seen no sign of any misbehavior, idk maybe it goes on away from my eyes.
  • DakiniDakini Veteran
    edited June 2011
    I think women's experience can be very different from men's experience in the sangha. Sometimes it's obvious, if the lama singles out one woman, and showers her with compliments in from of the sangha. I've read that more commonly, women sangha members get approached individually and in private, with proposals to "further their practice" via (ostensibly) tantric sex practice. One prominent lama even said on his website that a friend of his was teaching in the west, had "several consorts" and "no complaints". He has removed that statement from his website now.

    Sometimes I think some of the lamas come to the West with the expectation of getting personal with women students.

    I said "can be very different". Some teachers teach in a legit way.

    I also think that the kindness and sweetness that some students encounter can be a good front. People will let down their guard for someone they perceive to be harmless and kind. I can't speak as well to that, but a couple of women have said that.


  • Allegedly. And if you are correct then they aren't secret anymore. The other possibility is that the commentary is incorrect regarding what the secret rituals are.
    This is the interesting thing. The secrets are beginning to be leaked to the public. I wonder why the author of the "Commentary" book chose to allow the book to be published? Clearly he wasn't afraid of warnings of dire consequences for revealing the practices.

  • the position of lamas is shaky, if they keep tantric practices secretive and shadowy... considering the context. for the improvement of TB, tantra should be discussed more openly.
  • edited June 2011
    I think a general consensus is forming on these threads, that's headed in that direction, Vincenzi. (Or is that just my wishful thinking?) On the other hand, putting it out in the open could a) create serious problems and harassment from the Christian side and b) cause a stampede of people wanting to study it just for the sex, without the spiritual part. Wasn't that tried in the 1970's, and one of the high lamas decided it had been a big mistake?
  • VincenziVincenzi Veteran
    edited June 2011
    @compassionate_warrior

    I also think a consensus is starting to form... which will be nice if someone wants to help organize some reforms in TB.

    a) it is better if it leads to a reform (or a "clearance of acusations")
    b) it already happened with beatnick buddhism (or new age), and for some... tantra is about "longer and better sex".
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