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Doing something because you want to. Harder than it seems.
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Why would it be hard? It's something you WANT to do anyway.
Here's why it's hard:
1. Fear of failure
When it is some YOU wanted to do, it becomes YOUR responsibility because it was your idea. If you fail at it, there is no else to blame.
2. Fear ridicule.
You're putting yourself out on a limb when doing what you want. What if it doesn't match what other people think is cool? Then they will ridicule you.
3. Fear of the unknown.
Anything can happen in this world. If something pops up out of nowhere, you may freak out if you don't know how to deal with it.
I'm pointing this out because I've been noticing more and more people around me acting like this. Afraid to do certain things that they want to do.
I've been trying my best not to live like that. I used to have a strong fear of ridicule, but I've realized that I should not care what strangers think about me, since they are a very small part of my life. Fear of the unknown isn't too bad for me. I like surprises. However, I am struggling with the fear of failure. I think I'm smart enough, but I always feel that I'll get lazy and not see things through. I don't have confidence in my work ethic.
This is by no means definitive, it's just some things I've observed.
Here's why it's hard:
1. Fear of failure
When it is some YOU wanted to do, it becomes YOUR responsibility because it was your idea. If you fail at it, there is no else to blame.
2. Fear ridicule.
You're putting yourself out on a limb when doing what you want. What if it doesn't match what other people think is cool? Then they will ridicule you.
3. Fear of the unknown.
Anything can happen in this world. If something pops up out of nowhere, you may freak out if you don't know how to deal with it.
I'm pointing this out because I've been noticing more and more people around me acting like this. Afraid to do certain things that they want to do.
I've been trying my best not to live like that. I used to have a strong fear of ridicule, but I've realized that I should not care what strangers think about me, since they are a very small part of my life. Fear of the unknown isn't too bad for me. I like surprises. However, I am struggling with the fear of failure. I think I'm smart enough, but I always feel that I'll get lazy and not see things through. I don't have confidence in my work ethic.
This is by no means definitive, it's just some things I've observed.
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Courage is the CONTROL of Fear.
Courage - without fear - is simply reckless bravado.
It's foolish.
fear is the brake that helps us control our foolishness.
Mixed feelings are not the exception they are the rule; only in hindsight it looks like we knew what we were doing, like we had a clear plan and no doubts about it.
We just do what our unconscious mind dictates and then our narrative thinking turns that into our (sensible) decision. Unfortunately some people are not so good at that; they never know they did the right thing; and I suppose they got that right; we don’t know.
"Use what talents you possess. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best."
-Henry Van Dyke
Ridicule, ignore it. One's who ridicule those who made an attempt, are those who live in fear, and delusion of self importance.
Fear of the unkown, change this to want of knowledge, the future is but a path that we never see the end of; the path least traveled. But, maybe for wisdom, take the path not traveled.