It is true that Buddhism appears to go against the grain, but it only looks that way. Often it is a result of trying to move too quickly along the path.
When you wait for the right moment to let things go, you will find a certain ripeness within. And then discarding bad habits becomes easy.
I have experienced the same thing with Osho’s teachings. A little more patience, gratitude, kindness, openness… and things begin to happen by themselves.
It reminds me of this Zen joke:
A young man approached a Zen master and asked “Master, how long will it take for me to learn Zen?” The master replied, “Ten years.” The young man then asked, “And if I really apply myself, how long then?” The master replied, “Twenty years.”
I would say, learn to float downstream and gradually absorb the Dhamma. Surround yourself with good influences and let them work on you. Eliminate bad influences, a little at a time.
Jeroen
As my practice becomes deeper and more dedicated -two daily 30 minute sittings; maintaining contact with Treeleaf Zen sangha & NB forum- I have noticed that so many of my issues were demands due to preferences, none of which vital or essential for me to pursue a healthy and kind life. For example, not having internet in my room and simply accepting I had to go to another room to use my iPad. Also, noticing how many hours I spend on the internet / behind screens, absorbed in idle chatter. I sometimes feel that I've joined the Path a bit late because of how slow my progress has been. I know progress and improvement are conflicting terms in Zen, but I cannot deny (and I doubt anyone could) that zazen and Buddhist study has provided a lot of peace to me, my loved ones and my community. It has taken though a few years of starting, abandoning and repeating for it to really start to flourish.
Isn't Right view realising of this blessed opportunity, to do good and be kind, to not accumulate for garbage -materially, mentally, behaviourally- and to notice how the 4NT permeate this existence. It seems Buddhism sometimes is going a bit against your usual current: against what your biology has provided you to begin with (temperament & pre-conditioned preferences), our impulses, our self-satisfaction via self-indulgence, against the mass psychosis implemented by the news, ideologies, market, etc.
This without rejecting certain technology and pleasant treats (eating dark chocolate with sea salt as I write).
Good day to all!
Kotishka
@Jeroen said:
@Bunks said:
Good morning folks, thought I'd pop by and say hello.
It's been a while.
hope you're all well?Hey @Bunks! It has indeed been a while, good to hear from you although you don’t say much about how you’ve been…
For me it has been a tough and emotional couple of years, marked by the death of my father and stepfather, and the illness of my mother. There has recently been some light at the end of the tunnel, but it hasn’t been easy…
Sorry to hear that Jeroen. Hope things improve.
life for me is fine. Kids growing up. 13 and 16 now.
I have a new love interest but she lives 7000 kms away 
I am hanging with the monks and nuns at the Monastery this weekend, will post some photos
Bunks
I find that the last few months I have been worrying about selling my dad’s apartment, and I haven’t created as much space for the breath. I had kind of forgotten about it while getting caught up in the day to day.
Then i came across a question on another forum, do you meditate? And in answering that I remembered my year of the breath, and I just picked it back up again. It feels wonderful, so soft.
Jeroen
For about a week, this account was blocked- site unrecognized
Works now
Good morning folks, thought I'd pop by and say hello.
It's been a while.
hope you're all well?
Bunks
Yes… a friend of mine, who I have a chat with on WhatsApp every morning, suddenly stopped answering all her social media accounts. She wouldn’t pick up the phone either when I rung her up. That was a real exercise in letting go, when someone you are that close with, suddenly drops off the radar.
It turns out she had suffered a psychotic episode and was admitted to a closed psychiatric ward, she is now slowly recovering and letting a few people know what happened. She was gone for nearly a month… she is still there but now considered stable enough to communicate.
It is a shock when habits are disturbed.
Jeroen
Anything that involves attachment in the form of "anxious attachment / avoidant attachment" / craving "/ view of "this is how it should be" usually ends up poorly.
Following precepts works best (and sticking to them!) in situations where you try to use logic to convince yourself how it is acceptable in that particular circumstance.
"Going forward in practice is a matter of everydayness." Dogen Zenji.
Kotishka
Dear Friends of Buddhism tomorrow, today and yesteryear,
1) Newbuddhist.com was impossible to visit by me due to emergency protection by @Linc to protect the site from AI generated swamping (I suspect)
2) Buddhism is an acquired template not a cure all
3) Do not mistake opinions or temporary for Buddhist 'Gospel'
4) Buddhism may be one of 'The Boys' (available as a TV series) that includes super heroic propaganda/hagiography
5) Don't drink the kool-aid or lose critical insight
6) Does it work for you? Then you are doing it right, for change
7) Good luck is possible. Work towards it...

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