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Re: Insight on the Eightfold Path
@lobster said:
The Bitch is back
Tee hee! We Sith will have to stand (or sit) proud and unrepentant
I am so pleased you are still with us, in whatever form.
Remember to BeGoodor failing that
J'y suis; J'y reste.
Salu as some say on Mastodon. Yep still out their causing havoc...
https://defcon.social/invite/zaMN6Lj8Welcome back
Thanks, Lobby. Nice to see you haven't changed a bit. Or perhaps you've changed a lot. Either way, it's nice to be back.☺️😉
federica
Re: Insight on the Eightfold Path
The Bitch is back
Tee hee! We Sith will have to stand (or sit) proud and unrepentant
I am so pleased you are still with us, in whatever form. 
Remember to BeGood or failing that 
J'y suis; J'y reste.
Salu as some say on Mastodon. Yep still out their causing havoc...
https://defcon.social/invite/zaMN6Lj8
Welcome back
lobster
Re: Change is Inevitable ...(Levels of) Suffering Optional
It is our desire for happiness and permanency that IS the major cause or our discontent.
Buddhism is not about becoming "happy" but about learning to relax and accept life AS it IS. And the more you drop your agendas, the more you start to become aware of the richness and vibrancy of each moment of Life. You begin to smile more, and start to become curious and observant.
You also begin to be aware that just like you, all beings wish to be happy and not have any unhappiness. And this awareness gives rise to a sense of kinship with all, generating both ease and compassion .. and eradicating our sense of isolation from others and from Life.
And when bad things happen, you relax anyway, since tensing up only makes pain feel stronger. You remind yourself of the First Noble Truth and the humor of thinking we are the ONLY person alive who is exempt from any suffering. And then we relax, knowing that even THIS ... too ... will pass. Nothing is permanent, and what is bothering us will not last.
In one of the beginning classes the local Lama gave (back in the year 2000) told us he was going to give us a Very Important Mantra ... one that would work for ALL situations. The entire class held their breath and learned forward in rapt anticipation. The Lama then shrugged his shoulders, raised his palms up, smiled and said, "What's the Big Deal?) and laughed.
Since 95% of how we feel arises automatically from whatever kinds of subconscious emotional patterns we have previously fed INTO our brain, happiness really IS a state of mind, and as such it will come only from within.
When we make a "big deal" out of something we will feel a "big deal".
“It isn't the things that happen to us in our lives that cause us to suffer, it's how we relate to the things that happen to us that causes us to suffer.” Pema Chödrön
Buddhism ends up being a way to change all reaction patterns, gaining freedom from both desires and aversions, even as they continue to stream out of our alive living brain in endless flows. There may yet be MORE to this slow progression, but even after 25 years I am not yet enlightened enough to know if there IS more.
That's the wonderful thing about Buddhism .. it is a lasting journey into discovery and increasing improvement .. and who KNOWS where it will end up .. until you end up there?
Re: Does reading about spirituality make any sense?
Reading about spirituality does not produce sprituality.
Spirituality is NOT an intellectual, cognitive, nor verbal activity. It is an activity that arises from mindful awareness of THIS moment, Here and Now ... only. The purpose of meditation is to train our mind TO be mindful, but the insights come when we can recapture that mindfulness when NOT meditating.
But meditation is WORK and if reading about spirituality helps motivate you TO do your meditation, then reading about spirituality is helpful .. even though it doesn't do anything itself.
“Nirvana is beyond concepts.” Dzongsar Jamyang Khyentse, “What Makes You (Not) a Buddhist”
“There is nowhere to arrive except the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh
“To be enlightened is to be completely here and now, completely alert and available for the Present, because that is the only place you are ever going to BE in”. Alan Watts
Re: An online approach
ALL insight, ALL growth, ALL movement towards enlightenment comes from training your mind, through meditation, TO become and reside in open awareness. That is just the start.
“You have to do your own work; Enlightened Ones will only show the way. Those who practise meditation will free themselves from the chains of death.” Dhammapada 20.276
The actual change starts when you begin to recapture that level of observational awareness when NOT meditating. It can take as long as 5 to 15 years to start to have the first wisps of insight which generate minor inner change. From there .. it just builds over time as you continue your daily meditation practice and work at developing non-meditative awareness. It IS worth it, but it's not a quick fix.
For a partial and quick fix, try cognitive behavioral therapy. You can change a negative reaction pattern in just weeks, depending on the nature and cause of the problem and on your own efforts.
For slow but thorough inner change .. Buddhism is the path. If you no sangha or teaching, do Vipassana meditation. It is the only form of Buddhism designed to work witout a teacher to coach your practice. I recommend "Mindfulness in Plain Engnlish" by Bhante Gunarata. Often available on amazon (although the back of the book asks you to GIVE it way when you are done with it .. and NOT sell it for profit!). But it is the best written guide I have run across in my 25 years of doing Buddhism.
However, a local teaching monk is ALWAYS the best coach. It doesn't matter which Buddhist discipline the monk has been trained in .. they all work, when done properly.
Re: What documentary are you watching?
This video was of a great mountain trek, part of the Annapurna Circuit in Nepal. Fascinating people who care for these temples and tea houses along the way, and beautiful scenery of the mountain valleys and peaks in the distance.
Jeroen
Re: "Walk For Peace" monks in the US from Texas to Washing D.C.
They have a Youtube channel:
https://youtube.com/@walk_for_peace?si=8QpcjsrMzH0orvrR
marcitko
Re: What documentary are you watching?
Pilgrimages are not a part of every Buddhist tradition, but I feel drawn to them, I think because they are a way for like-minded souls to meet. I came across this piece on YouTube where a yogi said, in consciousness we are all one, and so thoughts and entities can migrate when you are close to people. Be careful of the company you keep, he was trying to say.
It puts me in mind of the sutra where Ananda says to the Buddha that holy company is half of the path, and the Buddha replies, no, holy company is the whole of the path. That is why I find a video such as the one below, even though it is about a pilgrimage to a temple of Shiva, a Hindu temple, captivating, and that it gives off a wholesome energy.
Jeroen
Re: What documentary are you watching?
I’m enjoying these trekking videos in Nepal, around these big 8000m mountains… some beautiful landscapes, great nature, quaint tea houses to stay in.
Jeroen