Hi August! Welcome to NB 
My opinion is that as one deepens his or her practice and the mind begins to "settle" and slow down, one can reflect on one's thoughts and patterns and, unfortunately, I have a lot of very egoistic decisions and nasty thoughts against others (including myself).
With the study of the Four Noble Truths and Right View & Right Effort, one realises how the three poisons can be countered through observation, patience and loving-kindness. It is like that quote which states the best revenge is not to become like your enemy.
Recently I saw a Zen talk that explained how metta is the most important and guides us through the rest of the other brahmaviharas (karuna, mudita, upekkha). I will try and find it and share it through here!
Kotishka
Hi August,
Hope you enjoy the forums!
I find practicing metta is best done in the morning after a small extra snooze. For me, metta is part of my nature that comes after sleep, and gradually dissipates after my morning coffee.
So if I practice metta at that time I kind of naturally fall into it and it comes to me easily.
If I practice metta in the afternoon I typically start with thinking about cats and dogs, objects of affection that warm the heart.
Jeroen
Hi August,
Welcome to the boards!
I love to practice and find great benefit in practicing metta.
I've developed a routine where I practice metta during my commute to work, in addition to other parts of the day. That way, I find my commute is time well spent, something I look forward to, and something that sets me up for an as pleasant and beneficial work day as possible.
Before difficult or challenging events, I previously thought that preparation is primary. Now I realize that yes, some preparation is in order, but preparing the mind and emotional state is even more important. With a better state of mind and emotional state, the whole event goes much better. Here, metta is my primary preparation practice. Wishing well both myself and whomever I am to interact with and whatever project we are working on.
I find that I can always do metta intellectually (via thoughts) but access actual metta (a friendly, positive, compassionate, loving state of mind/emotion) only sometimes.
Hence, I continue to practice.
What are your thoughts, experiences, and applications of metta?
Wishing you all the very best,
Marcitko
@marcitko said:
My currently favorite monk leads body-scan meditations with expressions of gratitude towards various parts of the body. 'Thank you brain, you are a very good brain, may you be strong and healthy for many years to come', etc.
Yet our bodies are not perfect and we all have some physical/health trouble
I like that gratitude practice, I may give it a try!
I think a key element of a healthy body-mind connection is for the mind to accept the body totally. If you are at war with your body, such as continually berating it for not being beautiful enough or weighing too much, you end up creating disharmony and fighting in the system.
Jeroen
@marcitko said:
Maybe I'm driving at the Christian idea to 'carry our Cross'. Yes, there is this bodily problem, but mostly, it's all good. So, I can carry this bodily problem with dignity, acceptance, even peace. Yes, do what I can to heal and help the body, but otherwise not 'attend to the fault' too much or let that derail my state of mind or life.
When I had cancer last year I kept thinking about how everybody says you have to fight it. Fight, fight, fight. I thought, No. This is my body. This is who I am. I chose to accept that it was there for a reason, and try to feel what the reason was, and what was needed to put things back in order. I went through the cancer treatments, but chose to regard them as putting things the way they should be instead of beating and killing the cancer. When the treatments were over the cancer was gone.
I learned a lot about my own resilience and strength. Don't know if that was the purpose, but it is already helping me to face the challenges of aging and the changes that come with that.
zorro
I threw my low back out a couple days ago and the going has been rough. But I keep thinking of the people who have to deal with this sort of pain and immobility on a daily, ongoing basis. I've been doing physical work for over 30 years and my body has held up incredibly well. I'm very grateful for it.
person
I am grateful for...
... my body's superb ability to excrete feces well and in a timely manner! 😂
I never realized that relatively young, healthy people could have problems in this area. Then, a friend's girlfriend, a 30-something very healthy woman, told our friend group she has severe problems in this area. Ever since, I've been grateful for not having that trouble.
I'm going through a stress-related poor sleep phase, so maybe some gratitude about something else that is going right is in order.
What are you grateful for today?
Peace is hard
War is easy
Peace is constant effort
Peace is dialogue
Peace is a slow, careful cultivation
Peace requires constant attention
To be tended to as a beautiful garden
Or a forest strong yet vulnerable
If neglected
Tended carelessly or lazily
Even a 100,000 acres of trees and grass
may be s destroyed by one glowing ember.
The ember of war
The ember if fear
The ember of hate
The ember of distrust
Be vigilant oh warriors of peace
Be diligent, envoys of compassion
Be strong, messengers of mercy
Carry your strength humbly
Tenders of the Garden
Peace to all
Me dog be shedding! Dogo hair everywhere! But she is such 70+ pounds of "Hi! Let's Play". And those eye! Oh those eyes! 


But, on July 4, we found her hiding under the granddaughter's bed, in the shower stall, and, finally, way back in my closet. We don't fault her as both my daughter and I had problems with the highly illegal (in this city and county) fireworks until we reached an accord with our "wild monkeys". Commercial grade stuff 360.
Everyone here survived, but we did hear some emergency vehicles in the distance a few times.
Gotta go, that squirrel is looking at me kind of strangely there.....