@federica said:
You're absolutely right. The Catholic Authorities insist that such 'transgressions' are dealt with "internally" and all they seem to do is to move the culprit to another post or parish. Talk about "We take care of our own"...And indeed, very often they find support among colleagues, who back them up or protect them, denouncing the accusers as vile liars, and upholding the innocence of the guilty party. You know, when 20 people file a complaint, they can't ALL be liars...
I see these clergy networks, whether Buddhist, or Catholic, or Protestant, Jehovah's Witness, or whoever, as the ultimate Old Boys' Networks. Their members cover for each other.
Whenever I feel like I'm losing my sanity, I just feign crazy for a bit. Prone to bouts of hysterical laughter, reflections of the absurdity of things, and the beauty of insignificance.
Other things that have helped me include deadpan and dark comedy, binge eating sweetbread and dark chocolate(This one only works until you run out and is usually followed by stomach ache), limiting the mind's stage time, compassionate detatchment or discarding of the emotional state. Sometimes with visualization of placing whatever emotional state in one of those bright colored dog poop bags and putting it in a public trash can and leaving it there as I carry on.
Insanity seems to come in a lot of flavors and who society deems insane and sane is often backwards so I try to pay little mind to what society is doing..for my sanity
My remedies are:
Perhaps itis that none of us is completely sane. While, to some, that may seem to establish inherent danger, I feel it provides inherent potential for beauty, grace and growth. After all, if we were not just a little crazy, there would be no adventure, no seeking, no wonder. That little bit of crazy is our window to become greater as individuals and as a people.
Here's to that little bit of crazy that allows us to seek better, to see the beauty in ourselves and all around us.
Peace to all
Ah yes we have socially acceptable craziness
Eg.
And what many of us consider a better norm (but 'society' may not)
lobster
I tend to find that the precepts coincide with my natural impulse. As long as I stay aware of negativity, of the un-wholesome, then it is not difficult to stick to that. Staying with the dharma and not letting impulsiveness sneak one through is the order of the day.
Jeroen
In our tradition, we do not ask others to believe. We do not attempt to make them give up their current beliefs. Instead, we request the individual to apply the practice and see the effects....
While the Dali Lama's practice differs from mine, His being a Tantric tradition, I feel that our approach somewhat approximates what he is saying.
Peace to all
When HH found out about Sogyal Rinpoche, who had been his friend, he publicly rebuked him, and advocated openness:
https://www.lionsroar.com/dalai-lama-denounce-ethical-misconduct-by-buddhist-teachers/
Here in northern Colorado USA there is a spectacularly beautiful Buddhist center part of the Shambhala organization. They had a sex scandal and did not adequately address it:
This was part of a chain of events that ultimately led to the center's bankruptcy.
@Yeshe2019 said:
I read action was taken by individual institutions, not H.H per se. The spiritual co-ordinator of Buddhist centres have disrobed several men who have acted inappropriately and consequently have been prosecuted by the legal system in their country. This has happened in America, hopefully it will happen in other countries also.
More survivors of abuse should file criminal charges, when appropriate. That would send a strong message back through the hierarchy in India and elsewhere, that they will be held accountable for criminal behavior. Many instances of abuse, though, are the result of highly manipulative behavior, not outright assault. Students are told they have to respect the teacher's demand the same way that Milarepa complied with every demand of his teacher, no matter how extreme. This is a false teaching. But students don't know that. Their teachers require them to take Samaya vows. Then the teachers hold that over them.
But what students don't know is, that if the teacher makes a demand that's contrary to the Dharma, the Samaya is broken, so they're automatically released from their vow. Corrupt teachers take advantage of Western students' naivety about the finer points of the student-teacher relationship. They lock students into Samaya early on in the teaching process, when traditionally it's only relevant after years of study, if the student reaches the advanced stage of tantric study.
I don't know if anyone here follows the young Kalu Rinpoche. On his first tour of his centers in the West, women in his main center in France told him about rampant abuse by the head lama there, and some Bhutanese monks on staff. A couple of the women filed criminal charges against the head lama for rape. I don't know how those cases turned out, only that the lama was in police custody for awhile.
But it's very sad what happened to Kalu Rinpoche after he fired everyone. The monks went back to Sonada Monastery, which is Kalu Rinpoche's monastery where he was abbot, and told the board of directors, that Kalu had acted against the Dharma, slandered the Dharma, or some such false accusations. It was very dirty politics; they were striking back at him for firing them. Since he was still in the West when they rushed to Sonada to denounce him, he wasn't able to defend himself. The board of Sonada excommunicated Kalu, and cut him off completely.
He had started out his career as a reformer. He had originally said during his first tour, that he wanted to reform the system that was under his control. He wanted to start schools for young monks, that would give them a modern Western education along with their religious training, so that they'd have marketable skills when they reached adulthood, in case they chose to follow a secular path and leave the religious life, which they have the right to do. But as a result of his bitter falling-out with his monastery, he's backed off from making major reforms.
Kalu Rinpoche also made a video in which he stated that he had been sexually assaulted at age 12 by older monks in his monastery, and even survived a murder attempt by the monk in charge of his education. For this reason too, he's controversial. But this is the experience that motivated him to try to create an alternative to the monastic education as it has been traditionally practiced. But now, since he's no longer in charge of his monastery, he can't make reforms there. Sexual assaults of child monks is common throughout the Tibetan system, although the DL has cracked down on this to the extent possible, in the monasteries he can control. Of course, it was also his own sexual assault experience that motivated him to replace corrupt monks in his centers with ethical ones. The prior Kalu Rinpoche had appointed some very corrupt people to run his some of his centers in the West, including a couple in Canada and the US.
So that's what happened to one bright light in the tulku system; he did his best to stop abuse in the centers under his control, but he was double-crossed by the people he fired. Now I notice, that on the Kalu Rinpoche wikipedia page, whoever wrote the page has cast doubts on Kalu's legitimacy. It says, the prior Kalu Rinpoche "supposedly" had left instructions on who was to be his successor. This is very sad, that there are elements trying to undermine his authority. All just because he had the compassion to try to do something about inherent abuse in his lineage.
Corruption is very hard to root out. The DL would have an impossible job, if he were to try to introduce system-wide reforms. Even to ask the sect leaders to do that, when in some cases the abuse comes all the way from the top, is useless. How easy has it been to eliminate abuse in the Catholic Church? (or in any denomination? There's abuse in all of them.)