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@FleaMarket said:
Hey @how,
The perspective makes sense to me. Putting it into practice is where I get confused.
What are some ways to identify and differentiate if what's being shared does or doesn't do that for someone's ego or attachments? Like among a group of people, or on a forum?

A Meditation practice is a process of training that allows us to objectively observe how we routinely create, maintain, and promote the storylines of our own egos. As we become more proficient in these observations, we see more and more opportunities within each moment to stop empowering the machinations of those storyline productions. What was once a relatively habituated set of behavioral inertias, can now become a choice in whether to continue with the storytelling or not. The degree to which we are ever able to stop the empowerment of our own storyline production is the same degree to which we can **stop triggering and empowering the storylines of all the other egos **within our spheres of influence.

One....or is it two possible perspectives on "sharing".

If a sharing of a victory or a difficulty increases or hardens an ego or an identity, some biting of ones ass should be expected
If a sharing of a victory or a difficulty decreases or softens an ego or an identity, there will be less of an ass left for any teeth to find.

or put another way....

Sharing is wholesome when it reduces anyone's tendency towards attachments.
Sharing is unwholesome when it intensifies anyone's tendency towards attachments.

I don't have much of a solution but I've certainly experienced speaking something aloud and the opposite quickly taking over. It's actually pretty frequent.

What makes these people so different?

Nutshell answer.....We do...

Perhaps, the question of "What makes these people so different", delusionally assumes that humanity has some level of sameness that most share when contrasted with those others we judge as being different.
Looking closer, can a fluidity take the place of those same identities when their ephemeral natures are seen to be no more substantial than any dream that we cling to?

I wonder, if psychology ponders the machinations of the various arisings of the human condition, where spirituality simply aims at a transcendence of those limitations.

I say, proudly showing off my own prejudicial dreaming's.

Polarities are within everyones experience to some degree. Retuning to a Middle Way or internal mechanism?

Constant leaving and entering anew.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kalyāṇa-mittatā