I think
at first heartbeat medical visit the dad should be billed 50% and start paying child support. If DNA later rules out them as the father then they should be reimbursed 1/2 but the remaining money considered to go towards medical research, activism, and education towards unwanted pregnancy prevention.
Jeffrey
I haven't had a warm/hot shower since the first week of January ( Summertime) and it's now mid winter and still no warm/hot showers...not a drop...
It's been quite cold (island standards) especially first thing of a morning,(this morning it was around 8/9C) ...
It's a case of feel the fear and do it anyway....However I have my morning jolk before the shower...
Shoshin1
@FleaMarket said:
@Lionduck said:
Once we get the answer, new questions arise.I like when the questions themselves seem to be a breadcrumb toward their own answer.
But what happens when there is no question where one is expected? How do you find the question to be asked when one hasn't arisen?Hmm, for me, maybe stop ignoring the perceived tertiary questions...Side quest becomes main quest? Or is this just creating busy work?
There comes a point where you realise all questions are irrelevant. They are things of the mind. If you sit in the garden and watch the trees wave in the wind, listen to the birds twittering, enjoy the smells of the blossoms… then there are no questions, there is no need for the mind. Then you just set it aside, with all its questions, and just sit for a bit.
Jeroen
Agitation = suffering/ignorance/lack of attending.
Buddhism uniquely does not require reasoning or interpretation. Peace in the moment, not in the movement. … much as @Jeroen has said …
gate gate pāragate pārasaṃgate bodhi svāhā
Heart Sutra
lobster
There is the question of getting the mind to agree — if your mind is busy and full of urgent questions, you can’t expect your observation of the garden to last without interruption. That is where mindfulness and meditation come in, to accustom the mind to being calm. Once you have accomplished this and you can fall into meditation with ease, then enjoying the garden becomes easier.
Jeroen
Zen is good for nothing....reminds me of
One of the older (oft-repeated) stories of a Zen abbot's answer when giving a tour of his monastery to an important governing official who asked when the monks meditate in the meditation hall. The Zen master's answer was "Whenever they have nothing better to do".
The karmic life consequences that arise from a meditator choosing to not meditate, are often more profoundly notable, than the no-thing readily found everywhere, when one is routinely meditating.
Here, Zen is simply good for no-thing.
how
@Jeroen said:
Are you suggesting we make an enlightenment detector which works on data from a specially-trained cadre of mindfull observers? Sort of like a black hole detector which works on data from stars. For detecting enlightened ones at long distances.
This is a pretty funny visual @Jeroen . I'm imagining a machine you stick your finger in and it tells you if you're enlightened or not with a red or green indicator.
Not trying to make the point for a detector so much as express an appreciation for many different perspectives working together. Like in seeking to find what is unable to be comprehended or expressed, we can look for the signs in the things we can comprehend and express. Since we are all on different places along the path, it helps to have multiple interpretations from various perspectives pointing in the same direction. Things such as the various schools and teachers, 10 ox herding pictures, Heart Sutra, koans, etc.
Just like the Buddha indicating which of his followers were strongest in certain forms of meditation or certain components of the 8FP and if I recall correctly, would direct individuals with specific challenges to specific practitioners since those practitioners saw from a particular perspective. Or how he taught variations of gradual training multiple times in slightly different ways across many Suttas.