@Jeroen said:
AC is kind of an American thing, in Europe very few houses have air conditioning.
Interesting. Not totally familiar with the climate, but I don't think you have areas like the American south where its regularly above 40 during summer. I live pretty far north and make little use of the AC personally, I work outside during the summer and do my best to stay in the shade, or start at sunup and quit before noon on very hot, humid days (upper 30s C generally). I'll open the windows at night and close them back up in the morning. Most days that keeps things cool enough, I'll generally sit and sleep with a fan blowing at me. At the same time I'll notice other units in my buildings pretty much running it full time, even when its not that hot out.
Also, being used to the heat makes it seem less hot, if you're someone who works inside with AC all day, stepping out even into moderately warm temps feels hot. Meaning the more you use AC the more you'll feel the need to use it.
person
@RobinH said:
Thank you.
1. Yes, I'm overweight. I work night shifts and it's not too exciting, so I've yet to find a substitute for caffeine to help me stay awake for 13 hours like that.
Green tea
- My wife does give me tremendous amount of emotional support, in fact I'm not sure I'd be still around without her. But she's not a very spiritual person and I can't expect her to understand why I'd seek a more spiritual life
Your wife is supportive of you and that's what counts
- America has its own serious issues that are blatantly clear to everyone, but life ain't too easy
here either, after all, people keep reelecting the government that does everything in its power to >divide us, to stigmatize the LGBT+ community and criminalize their efforts to raise awareness (to a >degree that often inspires US lawmakers) and of course our government is the most supportive of >Putin's war from the entire EU. It's not a place where I'd want my future children to go to school and >yet, starting over in a different country would take a huge amount of money we don't have.
Nothing is permanent not even corrupt governments
- Depression is recognized where I live, but the medication they gave me for it does more harm than good, the limited-time free therapy didn't lead anywhere and other types of therapy we can't afford.
Professor Mark Williams
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy and Depression








Overall, my situation is not as bad as it could be, lots of other people have it way worse. But that alone never seemed to make it better.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
Be well @RobinH 
Shoshin1
Hi again @RobinH 
Thanks for your honest answers. Others will understand and value and advise as well as they are able.
As people are unique they find what works for them. Seeking 'a more spiritual life' includes this:
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
https://insighttimer.com/blog/buddha-self-love-quotes/
This of course is not Narcissism but care and empathy for our sense of worth, karma and need for well being...
lobster
I'm not sure I totally agree with that, there are definitely degrees. Working in software at a small company where everyone cared about the product more than personal reputation was definitely among the easiest jobs. Settled work, a common goal, intelligent and highly educated people, it was very possible to breeze through the days.
Working for big blue chips where there was a lot more ego and ambition to advance was definitely more challenging. But I can imagine many lines of work that would be more so.
Jeroen
@Jeroen said:
a kind of Greek tragedy that our defining characteristics lead to a state where automation invades the human spirit, and machine virtues like efficiency and productivity take over from human virtues.
I'm down with Greek Tragedy - I suppose your topic includes such timeless themes as the protagonist wanting to have sex with his mother and to kill his father, unknowing, of course, but the final revelation of this, is truly tragic. And let's not forget the perennial, and so-called Greek Chorus.
@lobster said:
Due to my one Buddhist precept to sleep on a low bed, I sleep on a floor.
I have also been keeping this precept of late, one of the corners of my bed broke and now my matras is resident on the floor. Wonderful unintentional precept, the universe is obviously taking care of me…
Jeroen
In Buddhism, the development of martial arts was nor for warfare, but for both self defense and as a training medium. Martial arts are used primarily to aid in training the initiate's/student's mind and to bring both body and mind into a harmonious unity.
It is in a way, similar to riding a motorcycle. The ride must simultaneously be centered, focused, in he moment and broadly aware of all that is around him or her. Riding becomes a sort of meditation, clensing the mind, creating an alert calmness. A silent joy of being. Martial arts, when observed beyond the physical aspect, ultimately do the same thing.
Just food for thought
Peace to all
A rabbi once taught a class I attended about God and theology. I appreciated their approach to theology and how people view and understand God—i.e., that our understanding and perspective of God can (and likely will) change over time; the importance of attempting to understand how other people may think or feel a certain way about God (or anything else) based on their own unique experiences and understanding; and how a big part of being Jewish is wrestling with God and those ideas. So when someone brings up that term, I think a good place to start is what do they personally understand that term to mean, what’s the important aspects about it to them and the reasons why. Because an immature approach to religion substitutes what you think about a given term or idea in place of what another truly thinks and feels. And more mature approach, however, starts with a dialogue about what it means to them and going from there. And this rabbi also made the point that it's ok to wrestle with these things and challenge them as long as it's done in a way that's respectful and not dismissive or cruel. So be careful not to define a term or idea for someone—let them define it and then tease out the implications in an actual dialogue rather than beat a straw person with your intellectual kendo stick.
Jason
Please understand that the Four Foundations of Mindfulness are in fact intertwined. They are broken to four for purpose of description and function. Liken it to the aspects of riding a bicycle. In describing the aspects of riding a bicycle, where each part is separately described. However, while initially, trying to focus on each separate action, the rider begins to coordinate the different aspects into one smooth action of riding the bicycle. Just so, in applying the Four Foundations, each is viewed as independent, separate from the others. Eventually, the Four meld into one blended foundation, the Four are applied as one without need to concentrate on one or another. They all blend, again, as one. In description, many parts. In practice, the many parts become one seamless whole.
Peace to all
Mind is comfort food for God
Will I bother watching the video? Maybe. When I have a mind to...
https://mindowl.org/tonglen-meditation/
lobster