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Do you wish you were_____?
betaboy
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I am sure most of us - all of us? - are unhappy with something about us - it could be our looks, ethnicity, financial condition, career, just about anything. In view of this, do you ever wish you ever ______?
Fill in the blanks. Just a lighthearted thread where we can explore the gap between what we are and what we want. It is all part of mindfulness.
Fill in the blanks. Just a lighthearted thread where we can explore the gap between what we are and what we want. It is all part of mindfulness.
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anando
There is a long list of things that I wouldn't turn down if offered, but at the moment, things are good enough.
What you present as a "light hearted thread" is actually an invitation for others to join you in a hot tub of unnecessary suffering.
In the very second that you read this, what is a wish but a lack of acceptance for what is true.
Wishing is just the time you take away from actually being mindful.
Wishing is a directed holiday from being present for this moment.
Wishing does occur because we are human and all subject to varying degrees of our own conditioned responses. There is certainly enough phenomena that we mindlessly try to control and suffer accordingly from, to call a mindful effort at wishing to indulge that control, a submerging in sufferings cause.
When finding oneself immersed in creating a wish, a surprising amount of illumination can occur from just consistently returning to this present moment, to see what that sleep actually is, that the Buddha claimed to have awoken from.
But hey, that's just me, wishin'.....
Your wishes alone will not make these posts pointed or pointless any more than it will fix a computer..
IMO, The differences expressed on what wishes represent in the each ones practice, does make it as worthy as any other posting, irrespective of anyone's personal views of the op's intent or the value of their time spent here.
It was also labeled by him as lighthearted, even if I didn't see it that way.
That's not to say I have areas I need to get over myself, improve, or more skillful expression. Being 'unhappy' with something about me doesn't therefore lead me to wish I were _______ anymore. It's a waste of time and energy, just goes down the drain. Wishing. Having a goal or end result in mind to prod me toward improvement or release isn't a matter of WISHING.
The idea is to release the pointless waste of time of wishing the present moment would be different than it is. Instead, get over yourself, your present moment is a matter of past karma and it is what it is. Your opinions of what it could be or should be are a sad waste of your life -- like, the present moment could BE any different than it is!?
To be honest, I don't *wish* I were a different person in a different life (similar to OP) but sometimes when I'm at work, I *wish* I were at home. This time of year when I'm outside attending to my outdoor critters, I *wish* there weren't so much mud everywhere. I'm starting to see that even these 'harmless' wishes cause me unnecessary suffering. When I'm at work and wish I were home, the present moment is ignored, I'm unhinged from peaceful residence in it.
Do you ever wish you were me?
For example if I wish for respect why did I wish that? For many if they follow the trails of their own wishes they ultimately get to bodhicitta which is the wish for self and all others to take refuge in the Buddhas and pass away into enlightenment.
My teacher teaches 'heart wish' as one of the spokes of her course in spiral learning. A close companion to 'heart wish' is confidence of both the conditional and unconditional nature.
So trace your mundane wishes back to their source!
(see the acyrologia thread)
Southerners are dealing with it... hahaha....last snow here...
it took me 4 hours to get home....
Sorry Mods...I'm going off topic...no I'm not....We (Jeffrey and I)
wish we were in Fiji ....
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