So I'm now getting to an age where this matters somewhat... it's starting to come up in conversation. I'm 45, my mother is 68, my stepfather 80, my father 69. My mother is having to spend a lot of time and care on my stepfather - he is becoming rather forgetful and his hearing is not so good anymore.
If I look forward to what happened with my grandmother, she stayed at home until about 85 years old, and then deteriorated over 5 years or so in various homes for elderly care while my aunt looked after her finances and affairs. She died not so long ago when she was 91.
If my parents follow that pattern then I have about 10 years of doing my own thing before these various responsibilities will descend on me and I'll have to see if I can be somewhere reasonably close to them...
I was wondering if people in the community have any pointers for me in relation to aging parents?