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Apparently 47.2 is the unhappiest age

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  • federicafederica Deep-fried Dharma Batter Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    I call BS.

  • KeromeKerome Love, love is mystery The Continent Veteran

    There was a study... this one it seems

    https://www.nber.org/papers/w26641

    Which looks pretty comprehensive.

  • howhow Veteran Veteran

    Today for many of folks, and unfortunately for the sake of their livelihoods as well, grabbing other peoples attention, trumps critical thinking every time.

    Bunks
  • KeromeKerome Love, love is mystery The Continent Veteran

    It’s not just clickbait, it’s an article in The Guardian... about as respectable a journalistic institution as you will find to read on the internet.

  • DavidDavid some guy Veteran

    I'm 47 and 4 months.

    I bet their going mostly by finances. My financial situation never looked more bleak. I will never be able to retire and will most likely die in debt.

  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    Yep, I am 48 and I reckon that sounds about right.

    Without reading the article would it be fair to say it's because:

    1. Still have a mortgage
    2. Lost our youthful good looks
    3. Been married for probably 20-odd years to someone they don't like much anymore
    4. Have teenage kids they don't like much
    5. Reached a stressful position in their career to earn the money for the mortgage and wife / kids they don't like much
    6. Body is starting to break down
    person
  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    I recall a similar survey in Australia several years ago that came up with a similar age.

    From memory we are happiest at 72.

  • FeistyGibbletsFeistyGibblets Explorer South Australia Explorer

    @Bunks said:
    4. Have teenage kids they don't like much

    LOL - you're not wrong at times.

    1. Body is starting to break down

    Truth

    Bunks
  • federicafederica Deep-fried Dharma Batter Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    I was pretty happy at that age... Contented, with a home, two growing girls, a husband and a good life.

    I'm 63 now.

    It's shit.

    BunksFosdick
  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    @federica said:
    I was pretty happy at that age... Contented, with a home, two growing girls, a husband and a good life.

    I'm 63 now.

    It's shit.

    This is definitely a case where a "Hug" is more appropriate than an "Awesome"!

  • federicafederica Deep-fried Dharma Batter Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    @Kerome said:
    It’s not just clickbait, it’s an article in The Guardian... about as respectable a journalistic institution as you will find to read on the internet.

    Yes, but the article itself is hardly sombre, serious and focused on the study, is it? I mean, the Journalist seems to be reporting it in a very 'tongue-in-cheek' way....
    So while I am sure there is a good degree f truth in it, it doesn't count for us Buddhists because we know how to counteract these feelings of negativity, attachment, despondency, grasping, Desire and impermanence, don't we?

    .... Don't we...?

    ...Guys?

    Er.....Hello....?

    Don't we....??

  • federicafederica Deep-fried Dharma Batter Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    @Bunks said:

    @federica said:
    I was pretty happy at that age... Contented, with a home, two growing girls, a husband and a good life.

    I'm 63 now.

    It's shit.

    This is definitely a case where a "Hug" is more appropriate than an "Awesome"!

    <3

    It's Ok.
    There's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

    And then...

    There's another tunnel....

    :D

    Bunks
  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    @federica said:

    @Kerome said:
    It’s not just clickbait, it’s an article in The Guardian... about as respectable a journalistic institution as you will find to read on the internet.

    Yes, but the article itself is hardly sombre, serious and focused on the study, is it? I mean, the Journalist seems to be reporting it in a very 'tongue-in-cheek' way....
    So while I am sure there is a good degree f truth in it, it doesn't count for us Buddhists because we know how to counteract these feelings of negativity, attachment, despondency, grasping, Desire and impermanence, don't we?

    .... Don't we...?

    ...Guys?

    Er.....Hello....?

    Don't we....??

    Haha.....sometimes.

  • KeromeKerome Love, love is mystery The Continent Veteran

    @David said:
    I'm 47 and 4 months.

    I bet their going mostly by finances. My financial situation never looked more bleak. I will never be able to retire and will most likely die in debt.

    I came across a saying the other day that when you’re young your finances are the most stressed by setting up a new household, raising a family, and low wages, whereas when you are middle aged if you’ve played your cards right there is a financial pay day and you develop a surplus.

    This has not been my experience so far...

  • federicafederica Deep-fried Dharma Batter Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    Well I feel sad for the sad people, but their sadness is centred around things they either can't change, or could but don't know how.
    Both the absolute, central focus of the First Noble Truth.

    Ah, if only they knew there are remedies!

    Eight of them!

    Bunks
  • FoibleFullFoibleFull Veteran Canada Veteran

    The late 40's CAN be very stressful, but how bad it seems depends on our inner resilience.
    Our body is starting to age and fail us in ways.
    Our youngest children are teens and giving us sleepless nights.
    Our career may have plateaued out, and we have no substitute for the youthful hope that previously propelled us. In fact, we may find it hard to look forward to the future at all.
    Our marriage has probably moved into the "alienation" phase and we are not satisfied there.
    We may be working longer hours for less pay .. and probably our mortgage is not paid off, but we may be putting kids through university.
    If our parents have not already died, they may be aging and infirm or even in a nursing home. So besides working and taking care of our home life, we have to find time to help our parents (this is one of THE biggest stressors).
    All of these CAN be worked with, except for rebellious teens and aging parents.

    I could go on and on, but I do not think that the late 40's HAS to be the worst time .. it depends on what external stressors are going on in your life, and how well you work with your own internal emotional responses. That is what Buddhism is for, isn't it? Of course, it takes some years to make it work well, so that is what starting Buddhism in your 20's or 30's is for!

    Bunksperson
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