I thought it might be interesting to discuss this. I’m reading another book bij Hein Thijssen (see the old thread Mystics near where you live) and this discusses Hein’s use of primal therapy. He delved a long way into the books of Arthur Janov.
Basically what it comes down to is that everybody carries concealed pain from their youth, and that the failure to integrate this pain leads to a variety of coping mechanisms which Hein (following Janov) terms neuroses. This concealed pain can be the result of unmet needs but will generally originate in the early years before the mind is fully formed. The pain causes tensions, which one defends ones self against, and this defense mechanism is the neurosis.
These neuroses are generally core parts of the personality and identity, such as an intense fear of failure or a need to be critical of others. This then functions as a blockage to a deeper emotional life. Blockaded or neurotic is everyone with unsolved pain, very few people are truly free in the sense of primal self. The search for this freedom is what Hein calls ‘natural religion’.
In order to resolve the pain it has to be experienced, by discovering your ‘primal scene’, and placing yourself in the shoes of the child you were, and then expressing the pain verbally.
Does any of this ring a bell with you?