It struck me that Buddha often talks about the holy life in the sutras. But that since we in the west do not have a tradition of going forth, there is not a clear demarcation, a point at which you can say the holy life begins.
For me there was a lengthy period of introspection from 2011 to 2019, almost eight years where I lived by myself and had minimal contact with other people. It was almost like a long retreat, where I meditated a lot and read the dhamma. I can recommend it, in many ways it was good for me.
I notice that now that I live with other people again, I look at them (and my relations to them) differently. It is all part of practice, I notice their emotions and how they arise from their attachments, and I notice my emotions in response, and I see where that comes from. I do think the years of living alone have helped my medativeness.
How do you connect with the holy life?