I find lately that any kind of having to do things continuously, or having to believe things, weighs on me like a heavy stone. When I come across a teaching such as “the wise do this”, then there is an immediate response, don’t you want to be wise? Shouldn’t you do that?
But ultimately it is learning by imitation, one is trying to become wise by copying the wise, and this is not conducive to inner growth. At best you become a clone of what some person in the past thought was wise. It is not finding and developing your own sources of wisdom within.
So, following the dictates from books gives you rules by which to live your life, a kind of guidelines. Recently my experience has been that such guidelines get in the way of just living, evolving and expressing yourself. It is like your inner lens on your own nature gets obscured. It seems to me that a desire for freedom leads to leaving guidelines behind.
Compassion and an easy-going nature come to be by themselves once you leave the ideas of ‘must’ and ‘should’ behind. Trust yourself to do what is right, to manifest what is at your core. It helps to have done practice, to have spent time purifying oneself, but I think ultimately freedom should be ones guide.