This is something I encounter constantly in Zen texts.
It seems the spiritual path has nothing to do with developing a self. Of course, Buddhism has this important concept, anatta. But the spiritual path, particularly in certain advanced/new practioners, has been highly benefitial for them and those around them. I understand it as being self-less, but there is still an object / self as "To help others I must improve my habits / to help myself I must reduce my own suffering".
I tried sitting on this and ended up confusing myself even more. I picked up Psychology as a result of my interest towards Buddhism to help people as I've always felt fond of listening and helping others. Is this feeding a self that has no existence, thus a hindrance to the path? I do acknowledge that there is a small trap to this. I work myself for qualifications to validate myself to be able to work.
Maybe some of us -myself included- should accept that many rounds of rebirth are what's coming up for us, just like the bill after a long binge at the pub. Or maybe that there was no bill nor pub to start with. Or maybe at some point the self has stretched enough to provide the trampoline to jump into the non-self?
Thanks for reading.