About a week ago, the topic of "Right Speech" opened up for me in the sense that I am more able to work on it, want to work on it, and see the value of it. With speech we greatly influence both ourselves and others. So let it be high-quality speech or "Right Speech".
As is often the case for me, I quickly entered into a dilemma. This is because I was aware of the Buddhist concept of "Right Speech" (granted, not something I researched a lot) but also the idea of "Radical Honesty" proposed here: https://www.radicalhonesty.com/ So my question was: which is better?
Here is what the Buddha had to say on the criteria for what is considered Right Speech (from here: https://www.accesstoinsight.org/ptf/dhamma/sacca/sacca4/samma-vaca/index.html)
_"It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will."
My current conclusion is that the Buddhist concept and practice is better, even though they both probably lead to the same result. This is because it is wider and takes more factors into consideration. This does not mean, in my view, that "Radical Honesty" is wrong, just that the Buddhist concept and practice is better/higher/more beneficial.
However, it seems to me that it is better only on the condition that we are also honest (nearly radically honest with the intention of becoming radically honest once we are perfected) about our thoughts and feelings, which to me falls under Buddha's category of "spoken in truth". If we are using (contrived) "right speech" to cover up and deceive others and ourselves about our true thoughts and feelings, that does not sound so noble to me.
Now that I think of it, I could summarise Buddha's five conditions into "it is spoken in love" or in more Buddhist terms "it is spoken in compassion". If we speak with love and/or compassion, the five criteria in practice seem to naturally fall into place and every time we know, on a gut level, if our proposed speech is wrong on any one of those criteria.
What are your thoughts on right speech? Do you practice it and how? How do you view honesty within right speech?