I feel like I am on the other side (for now) of what I was struggling with when I first posted this.
I want to say thanks to everyone. The advice you have all given me has pretty much come to pass. I am more comfortable with letting things go in their time and not spending energy on achievement, which of course has eased the hunger for being able to do those very things. 
It’s odd…
Lately I have been finding that the path to relaxation has been leading through a period of degeneration, and that there is no more letting go to be done. That instead I need brief periods of vipassana to re-align my energy, not much, no more than 5 minutes every once in a while. That just tells me that it’s necessary to listen to my body.
I just had some cold pumpkin soup made yesterday evening entirely from fresh ingredients, there was a little left over and I thought it might suit me for lunch. The delicate flavours of fried shallots and toasted garlic and ginger were most delicious. That too is listening to the body, that it prefers the soup to chocolate (of which I also had a little).
For the rest, I have been letting the body take a few naps during the day, sleeping when it feels like it would like a little extra sleep, such as after a meal. Which means I have been awake a little more during the night, which is fine too. It is all natural rhythms of the body, day and night.
In a way much of our rhythm is determined by living circumstances. I think of my experimental rhythm above as a ‘caveman rhythm’, going back to prehistory before nine-to-five jobs were a thing. It’s a luxury to be able to explore such a thing without pressure and anxiety.
Jeroen
Even the best of us have those times when we find the little gremlin has picked the lock and run out to break dishes, overturn teacups and generally create mischief and mayhem. Eventually, we are able to get our gremlin, kicking and screaming, by the scruff of the neck and toss it back into it's cage, slam the door shut and put a new lock on the door. Then we return to trying to develop our mercy and compassion - until the next time. And there will continue to be next times until we eventually get it right (maybe).
But that is just part of life, of living. After all, the gremlin and the Bodhisattva are one and the same.
Don't kick yourself when you trip or fall or momentarily step "off the path". Just get back up, reset your feet, step back on the path and move ahead. You have just learned one more way not to screw up and one more way to recover.
Welcome to the life of a Human Being.
Peace to all
Incidentally... this is where I am at the moment (sometimes)
https://mastodonapp.uk/invite/6Y9n3o2e
I do not stay too long in one place. Otherwise I pick up followers. The strange thing on Mastodon is EVERYONE is an influence. As the name suggests this one is UK specific (supposedly). It is hosted by the founder of Mastodon (Ryan Wild) and he is American.
https://fediverse.info/explore/people
Let me know if you have difficulties (by private message here if you prefer)
lobster
Interesting and valuable journalist George Monbiot. I have read many of his articles.
meanwhile...
Don't think the Dalai Lam is in the bidding
Where do you get your news everyone. Mainstream? Turnoff all news? Unsocial media/propaganda?
lobster
“Meditation is hard for youngsters. Their teeth are strong, so they can enjoy their food. They sleep soundly. Their faculties are intact and the world is fun and exciting to them, so they get deluded in a big way. For the old ones, when they chew on something hard they’re soon in pain. Right there the devaduta (divine messengers) are talking to them; they’re teaching them every day.”
— Ajahn Chah
Jeroen
“Those who easily believe others are said by the Buddha to be foolish.”
— Ajahn Chah
Jeroen
Interesting
The Cure For A World Run By Psychopaths
What if the world we live in isn’t broken by accident but by design? And what if the path to fixing it has been within us all along?
This I also found interesting
Why Having More Money Can Make You Care Less 
They say money changes everything—but what if it’s changing you? Research reveals how wealth can subtly alter the way we think, feel, and treat others. The truth may surprise you.
Shoshin1