@person said:
There's also a seeming obsession with imagining romantic relationships, or who I'd have a shot with, etc.
I do this all the time, never with the intent to act (as I am happily married) but, apparently, to pass the time more quickly or entertain myself or something. Glad to hear I am not the only one.
Questioning whether inner work alone is enough, is good.
The only thing separating a practice into inner & outer states of work is our own habituated responses to phenomena. Is this not a dream to be awakened from?
The degree that one's practice is being limited to inner work alone, is the degree that a hardening of the ego, a solidification of one's identity, a separation between self & others, and a state of Prechecca Buddhahood, is being beckoned to.
In a Buddhist practice, it's what marks the difference between what's appropriate and inappropriate in the development of concentration in the 8 fold path.
how
For everyone, the lamp is lit
The light shines bright
The light fades
The lamp goes dark
We each have a choice -
To live or merely exist
Peace to all
Donut or not Donut...
Glazed or Chocolate
Oldfashioned or Sprinkled
Good with coffee
@David said:
My Dad passed away less than a month later leaving me with my first koan.
What a story. Classic Dad joke leads to deeper meaning. 
One interesting thing about board games: they are more fun when you don’t play to win. I’ve been playing Wordfeud with a lady friend online, it’s almost exactly like Scrabble, and I noticed that if I exerted myself I would just win all the time, so to keep things interesting I started setting up opportunities for her to use the Triple Word Score tiles. She won a lot of games after that.
Jeroen