@person it's hard to say when the hostilities will come to an end ...
I think that most people on the outside looking in, want an end to hostilities and see both Israelis and Palestinians living peacefully and equally side by side in two separate states or one state ...
The present situation can't go on forever, a compromise which suits both parties must be reached...
Shoshin1
So if I hear what you're saying, if Israel would stop its settlement expansions, allow greater freedom of movement in and out of Gaza and work harder to prevent excessive use of force from its soldiers the Hamas problem would essentially take care of itself?
The so called Hamas problem is an interesting one...
The New York Times
"As far back as December 2012, Mr. Netanyahu told the prominent Israeli journalist Dan Margalit that it was important to keep Hamas strong, as a counterweight to the Palestinian Authority in the West Bank. Mr. Margalit, in an interview, said that Mr. Netanyahu told him that having two strong rivals, including Hamas, would lessen pressure on him to negotiate toward a Palestinian state."
My history isn't super informed but isn't the restrictive Gazan border a security measure? Didn't the peace talks result in a pretty good two state solution which was then rejected by Arafat and the PLO? In the current conflict didn't Hamas build tunnels and bases in humanitarian zones, also a direct violation of international law? How can one conduct a war against an enemy who metaphorically straps innocents to themselves without harming civilians?
If Israel see it has fair games to kill innocent civilians to get at the target , using the same kind of logic, this would also justify Hamas's attack on innocent Israelis...Hamas could argue that because Israel has compulsory conscription (with few exceptions), in warfare, all Israelis are a potential targets... using this logic...
I guess that where I'm coming from is didn't Israel try some of this stuff only to get things like the two intifadas, isn't the expressed wish of Hamas to eliminate the state of Israel, such that nothing short of "From the River to the Sea" would offer security?
If you think about it, the Palestinian people have had the cards stacked against them from the outset...The British forcefully occupied their land and then gave some of it to the European Jewish settlers aka the Zionists, who decided that the land they had wasn't enough and forcefully removed more Palestinians from their land and have continued to do so ...As it stands Israel is holding over 9000 Palestinians in their prisons, men women and children, some were released with the first hostage exchange but shortly after many were put back in prison again during IOF raids....
Most everything you say is legitimate AND at the same time though, many believe, Israel has legitimate security concerns. They can't simply lay down their weapons and hope to be left in peace.
But they can stop killing innocent men women children and babies....
Over the years the Palestinians have tried peaceful means to stop Israel from illegally confiscating more of their land, for example, through the ICJ but Israel just ignore any of rulings against them.
Which brings me to this other point ....the Bully tactics used by Israel against the Palestinian people...
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@person I agree that Hamas is a significant problem when it comes to peace between Israel and the Palestinian people. However, their hatred and resentment of Israel didn't happen in a vacuum. One only has to look at the history of the modern state of Israel and how they have treated the Palestinians. Netanyahu and his predecessors have done very little to bring about a peaceful two-state or one-state solution. In fact, he and his party followers have been stoking the fire of hostilities between Israelis and Palestinians...
In regards to Yasser Arafat...
Yasser Arafat, did not outright reject a two-state solution, but rather his stance on the matter evolved over time and was influenced by various factors:
Complex Negotiations: Arafat engaged in peace negotiations with Israel throughout the 1990s, culminating in the Oslo Accords in 1993. While the Oslo Accords laid the groundwork for a two-state solution by establishing the Palestinian Authority and outlining a process for Palestinian self-governance in parts of the occupied territories, they did not definitively resolve the core issues of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, such as borders, settlements, Jerusalem, and the right of return for Palestinian refugees.
Settlement Expansion: The continued expansion of Israeli settlements in the occupied territories, particularly in the West Bank, undermined the viability of a two-state solution by fragmenting Palestinian territory and creating facts on the ground that would make the establishment of a contiguous and independent Palestinian state more difficult.
Jerusalem: The status of Jerusalem, which both Israelis and Palestinians claim as their capital, emerged as a major stumbling block in negotiations. Arafat and the Palestinian leadership insisted on East Jerusalem as the capital of a future Palestinian state, while Israel maintained sovereignty over the entire city.
Internal Palestinian Politics: Arafat faced internal political challenges within the Palestinian territories, including opposition from more hardline factions that rejected any compromise with Israel and advocated for armed resistance. Balancing these internal dynamics while negotiating with Israel proved challenging for Arafat and the Palestinian leadership.
Final Status Issues: Despite progress made in interim agreements, final status negotiations between Israel and the Palestinians stalled over contentious issues such as borders, settlements, refugees, and Jerusalem. Arafat's reluctance to make concessions >on these issues, coupled with Israeli concerns about security and the status of settlements, contributed to the breakdown of negotiations.
Shoshin1
What ideas or solutions are being put forward about what Israel should do about Hamas and its security overall?
Immediately stop the killing of innocent Palestinian civilians first...
What they are doing now is having dire consequences but a large part of the motivation is security and the elimination of Hamas rather than a wish to genocide Gazans
You may find "this" article of interest
What they have been doing for many years has led to this...Sadly it would seem killing many Palestinian civilians and a few Hamas fighters and occupying more and more Palestinian land is the Israeli government's approach to security...Netanyahu does not want the conflict to end...
What they are doing now is having dire consequences but a large part of the motivation is security and the elimination of Hamas rather than a wish to genocide Gazans.
Not according to many Israeli officials, they have openly advocated for Gaza to be flatten and its people to be ethnically cleansed, there are quite a number of Israelis who want the ongoing bombardment of Gaza to continue...
For a number of years Netanyahu had planned on claiming more Palestinian lands for the state of Israel and it would seem the opportunity has arrived for him to do just that and he is prepared to do whatever it takes to fulfill this plan...
So just telling them to stop doesn't address this deeper need. Offering an alternate solution allows Israel to take greater care of Gazans without totally giving up on their own legitimate concerns
Palestinians have a right to self determination and not be ruled over by an occupying colonial force...
Trying to force Hamas to stop by killing Palestinian civilians also does not address this deeper need.
"Palestinian self-determination refers to aspirations by Palestinian nationalists for increased autonomy and sovereign independence as well as to the international right of self-determination applied to Palestine. Such sentiments are features of both the one state solution and the two state solution."
The obstacles in the way...
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Settlement Expansion: The establishment and expansion of Israeli settlements in the occupied Palestinian territories, including the West Bank and East Jerusalem, are widely considered violations of international law, including the Fourth Geneva Convention, which prohibits an occupying power from transferring its civilian population into the territory it occupies.
Restrictions on Movement: Palestinians living in the occupied territories face numerous restrictions on their freedom of movement, including checkpoints, roadblocks, and the separation barrier, which impede their access to essential services, education, healthcare, and employment.
House Demolitions: Israel has been criticized for demolishing Palestinian homes and structures in the occupied territories, including East Jerusalem and Area C of the West Bank, often citing lack of permits as justification. Critics argue that these demolitions disproportionately affect Palestinian communities and violate their rights to housing and property.
Excessive Use of Force: Israeli security forces have been accused of using excessive force against Palestinian civilians, including during protests and demonstrations, resulting in injuries and fatalities. Human rights organizations have documented cases of arbitrary arrests, torture, and ill-treatment of Palestinian detainees.
Gaza Blockade: Israel has imposed a blockade on the Gaza Strip since 2007, severely restricting the movement of people and goods in and out of the territory. Critics argue that the blockade amounts to collective punishment and violates the rights of Gaza's residents, including their rights to health, education, and freedom of movement.
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Negotiating a comprehensive peace agreement between Israel and the Palestinians that addresses the issue of settlements is crucial. This could involve establishing clear borders between Israel and a future Palestinian state and reaching mutual agreements on the status of settlements located in Palestinian territories..
Shoshin1
I have always liked Progressive Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez political stance...which comes from the heart...
Mr. Speaker, I know a man, a decent man, who said that preventing genocide is an achievable goal. A goal that requires a level of government organization and engagement that matches in its intensity the brutality and efficiency required to carry out mass killing. Too often, these efforts have come too late, after the best and least costly opportunities to prevent them have been missed. The man that said that was then Vice President and now President Joseph Biden, and he was right.
Mr. Speaker, I rise to say that such a time is now. As we speak in this moment, millions of innocents in Gaza are at the famine door. A famine that is being intentionally precipitated through the blocking of food and global humanitarian assistance by leaders in the Israeli government. This is a mass starvation of people, engineered and orchestrated following the killing of another, the majority of whom were women and children. Hospitals are scarce, and much of this was accomplished with US resources and weapons.
If you want to know what an unfolding genocide looks like, open your eyes. It looks like the forced famine of millions of innocents. It looks like thousands of children eating grass as their bodies consume themselves while trucks of food are slowed and halted just miles away. It looks like good and decent people who do nothing or too little, too late.
It is against United States law to provide weapons to forces who block United States humanitarian assistance, and that is exactly what is happening right now. So much so that the President himself stated during the State of the Union that the United States must and will be building its own port to let aid through. It will be too late. The time is now to force compliance with US law and the standards of humanity. We must fulfill our obligations to the American people to suspend the transfer of US weapons to the Israeli government in order to stop and prevent further atrocity.
Honoring our alliances does not mean facilitating mass killing. We cannot hide from our responsibility any longer. Blocking assistance from one's closest allies to starve a million people is not unintentional. We have a responsibility to prove the value of global democracy, enshrined in the upholding of civil society, rule of law, and commitment to human and civil rights.
This is not just about Israel or Gaza; this is about us. The world will never be the same, and we will never be the same. We must write our story in this moment of what it means and who we are as Americans. And our story must be not that we were good men who did nothing, but that we were a committed democracy that did something. And we must prove that now. With that, I yield back. Thank you.
Shoshin1
A couple of practical notes come to mind about your thread.
At least as far as I understand from what you have explained...
One of these brothers is a rapist, while the other brother who had this rape situation explained to him, still chose to protect this perpetrator over the criminality that was committed against you, the victim. That makes him an accessory.
I would be hesitant to renew your contact with either of these individuals as they might reasonably perceive you as a credible threat to their current lifestyles, despite how benignly you think you might be able to present this renewed interest in them.
Your forgiveness of them does not really depend on renewing contact with them unless **you **make that contact a condition of your forgiveness.
I am not presuming to know if you should contact them or not. Just that if it's a "letting go" that you really seek, why should it depend on you deliberately re-entering this karmic arena with them again?
Be safe.
how
There you are on the far shore ... you start swimming back on a rescue mission. When you get back to samsara you find everyone is a teacher and you are in Nirvana, Still.
Where you going to swim to now? With the fishies?
lobster
I’m at a crossroads.
Whenever I am at a crossroads, I go somewhere else. Off-road, digging or flying. Surprisingly, you only have your dukkha/sukha/path. Amazingly, we all cross roads to get to the far shore. Chicken or roadrunner ...
Beep Beep ...
lobster
What we do makes a difference now. We don't have to be world changers to make the world a better place for those we come in contact with.
Unfortunately in this day and age so few people truly listen.
I feel this a lot when I think about getting more seriously involved in spirituality such that I could possibly teach others. For me its more like, no one would really care about or welcome my perspective. In order to teach I'd have to fall in line and offer the approved discourse.
person
@Jeroen said:
@IdleChater said:
Did you get counseling after the abuse?Not sure what relevance that has, although counselling now may provide another, non-Buddhist point of view on the question whether to resume contact.
It feels to me like the answer to your question has to do with how mature your peace is. If you still feel that contact with this man and his brother are going to trigger you to relive the event, then you are likely still carrying trauma from back then, and should seek professional psychological help. There are good therapies for dealing with trauma and flashbacks like EMDR, which can help relieve these things. Or you could try somatic experiencing. There are also good books on the subject, like ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk.
Buddhism is very good for finding inner peace, but trauma is generally seated at deeper levels of the body-mind complex. You may find that your Buddhist peace gets sorely tested if you resume contact.
Thank you, what you said makes a lot of sense and I appreciate the book recommendation. I agree my buddhist beliefs would get tested, and they certainly did when three years after this incident a man tried to harm me at a train station, but it would have been a lot worse. I realise this is all my karmic seeds ripening, but it can be overwhelming when it’s constant.
EMDR and TRTP are two therapies I’m considering.
Thank you again. 🌹
@IdleChater said:
Did you get counseling after the abuse?
I did, a rape counsellor was in the doctor’s surgery that morning. I saw her for about six months, but after a while I felt it was doing more damage when the counsellor ( as lovely as she was) wanted me to talk about my parents and childhood. I felt it was irrelevant to my experience.