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I don't have much of a solution but I've certainly experienced speaking something aloud and the opposite quickly taking over. It's actually pretty frequent.

What makes these people so different?

Nutshell answer.....We do...

Perhaps, the question of "What makes these people so different", delusionally assumes that humanity has some level of sameness that most share when contrasted with those others we judge as being different.
Looking closer, can a fluidity take the place of those same identities when their ephemeral natures are seen to be no more substantial than any dream that we cling to?

I wonder, if psychology ponders the machinations of the various arisings of the human condition, where spirituality simply aims at a transcendence of those limitations.

I say, proudly showing off my own prejudicial dreaming's.

Polarities are within everyones experience to some degree. Retuning to a Middle Way or internal mechanism?

Constant leaving and entering anew.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kalyāṇa-mittatā

@SuraShine said:
After a particularly horrendous two weeks where I’ve berated myself for leaving Pathology and seriously considering going back, I’m joining this quest late.

Yesterday and today so far, have consisted of me getting so upset to the point of tears, that I have had to constantly remind myself of my Bodhisattva vows and calm down. Currently on my third headache in two days so I need to refocus and meditate my arse off.

Oh no! Hang in there buddy.
This too shall pass…

I'd agree there are far more lives destroyed than those who overcome, and extreme suffering is certainly not necessary but it can be a means to an end. In a sense the Buddha, first given all his greatest desires, went and nearly starved himself to death and suffered a great deal. The result of that attempt was being able to cross off that pathway as a potential pathway and earnestly try a new way without having to wonder, because he experienced it and knew. He'd experienced and knew, both the attaining of great desires and the near-death suffering. Knowing doesn't solve much on its own. Something has to be done with that knowledge. It has to be applied somehow, examined in such a way it leads to the striving and flourishing.

When I'm stuck, if I examine my behaviors, I usually have toxic waste running through my mind. Replaying bad memories, imagining bad people getting theirs, wishing it would be different, wondering if I deserved it and so on. It's a big enthralling mental/emotional horror story. This spills into behaviors and actions when left to proliferate. Eventually seeking some form of self-soothing or being jolted aware when someone far less deserving receives my unfortunate misdirection of frustration. It stems from what I'm entertaining in the mind which I'm not always aware of.

So maybe after knowing the experience, the next component could be being aware of what the mind and feelings are doing with that knowledge. Being an observer to the mind and feelings rather than enthralled participant. If so, how does one practice being an observer to themselves and their behaviors?

What I did initially that I found helpful was to start by practicing 3rd-person-view observing. Having come from a gaming background, many games you play your character with 3rd person perspective. The camera sort of hovers behind them as they run around the world and do stuff. This provided me a jumping off point to view myself in my mind as if in 3rd person mode. So maybe for me the question of how to practice is to experiment and explore using things I'm already familiar with.