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@ShanYin37 said:
I have been experiencing suffering and discomfort and unhappiness. How can I overcome this?

I am sorry to hear this. Unhappiness and discomfort are nothing but signals. It is no different to how your physical body feels aches, pains, sickness etc. to signal to you that there is something wrong. I would strongly suggest that you see it no other way... just impersonal, objective, factual. Your unhappiness and discomfort are not statements about who you are, what your worth is. There is no judgement involved. It is just signals to let you know that there is something wrong. So, with a little bit of self-honesty, I am sure it is not too difficult to identify certain things that are wrong that are causing you to feel like this.

I can see from the post above that drugs are involved. Okay, so be it. This is not uncommon at all. The vast majority of the time people use drugs to mask / alter how they are feeling. It makes sense! We all have an instinct and attraction to feeling good. Sadly many of us live in conditions that do not do their best to encourage this! Especially childhood conditions... what happens to some children breaks my mind and heart. So, beyond the drugs, you probably have some digging in to do.

Again, this is not personal to you. If you had a difficult childhood, for example, then this is most likely not your fault. Things might have happened that you had no power or control over, and that you had no awareness or understanding to process in a healthy manner. So be it. It's a mess in your home that someone else has made for you, and now you are left to clean it all up. It's not the nicest thing to do to someone! But, the mess is the mess, and it won't clean itself up, as my mother likes to say!

Just don't make it personal. The mess has nothing to do with you. You didn't cause it, you didn't ask for it, you didn't want it. The mess happened when you had no power to stop the messing happening. This has nothing at all to do with you, who you truly are, what is in your heart, and there is no consideration of good or bad in any of this. Just a mess that needs to be cleaned up.

If you can keep it as impersonal to this, avoid any self judgement or condemnation, stick to the facts and stick to the work that needs to be done, then it is just a simple task of step by step cleaning up the mess. Many have done it before, many are doing it now, and, I suspect, many of us will be doing it for a long time yet on this weird-ass planet. Just one step at a time, and before you know it, your home will be clean once more.