Suffering is caused by desire...
And there is probably no better example of this than the desire for intimacy. We cannot escape it either and when it comes it is normally met with feelings of inadequacy.
We can give up searching for it but it finds us, it just takes the form of someone like a doctor or someone who you see on the shop.
To me my self worth is entirely tied to this. I crave intimacy so much but I know I live in a world where that is not for everyone. Maybe when I am older it won't sting so much but right now my body still craves human contact so much. I just wish I could switch off my ability to fall in love. It has only become a hindrance for me. I just don't see what is so great about it. I never feel crappier than when I am in love. I think I would be slot happier without it seriously. Films have buffed it up to be the ultimate feeling that we should all aim to enjoy and maybe for some it is. Most of the time though it is always someone unavailable, someone out of your league or just someone you shouldn't that you fall for.
When I fall in love I just say to myself "oh god now I'm gonna be miserable for weeks" and it does, I just get down, I lose my appetite I keep obsessing and keep telling myself how it can never be.
Love really really reeeeeaaaallly sucks.