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BunksBunks VeteranAustralia Veteran

Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

I'll take the latter.....

AlexShoshin

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  • KeromeKerome Love, love is mystery The Continent Veteran

    Being right is one of those things that feeds the ego, it’s not ultimately good for one’s growth.

    Being happy too can be a mixed blessing, depending on where it comes from and what it does to the rest of your state of mind. Witness lots of depressed people being given “happiness juice” (antidepressants) and often only feeling moderately better.

    But I think overall happiness is to be preferred, yes B)

    BunksBuddha-Dude
  • federicafederica seeker of the clear blue sky Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    I'm always both, so.... :p

    Seriously though... Seng-Ts’an, aka Sengcan, who died in 606 is attributed with the saying -

    “Don’t keep searching for the truth, just let go of your opinions.”

    Seems legit advice...

    BunksBuddha-DudeFinnTheHumanlobster
  • personperson Don't believe everything you think the void Veteran

    For the most part all I've wanted out of life is to be happy. I think I've come to value truth as the most important value though. I think I'd rather have a hard truth than a pleasant fiction.

    Bunks
  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    @federica said:
    I'm always both, so.... :p

    Seriously though... Seng-Ts’an, aka Sengcan, who died in 606 is attributed with the saying -

    “Don’t keep searching for the truth, just let go of your opinions.”

    Seems legit advice...

    That deserved a lol and am insightful @federica =)

  • ShoshinShoshin No one in particular Nowhere Special Veteran

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I would rather just be content.... :)

  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    @Shoshin said:

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I would rather just be content.... :)

    Contentment = happiness

    Shoshin
  • lobsterlobster Veteran Veteran

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    The right thing is to choose both
    ... that should keep everyone happy o:)

    BunksFosdick
  • DavidDavid some guy Veteran

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    I was miserable until I left so this is a toughie.

    Actually, it is rather tough. I can't envision a scenario where I would have to choose.

    adamcrossley
  • BunksBunks Veteran Australia Veteran

    @David said:

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    I was miserable until I left so this is a toughie.

    Actually, it is rather tough. I can't envision a scenario where I would have to choose.

    Left where @David ?

  • DavidDavid some guy Veteran

    @Bunks said:

    @David said:

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    I was miserable until I left so this is a toughie.

    Actually, it is rather tough. I can't envision a scenario where I would have to choose.

    Left where @David ?

    Oh, nowhere really. I was just trying to be punny.

  • federicafederica seeker of the clear blue sky Its better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt Moderator

    @seeker242 said:
    Both! Because from a buddhist perspective, being right about the true nature of things, is essential for happiness to begin with.

    It didn't specify what you wanted to be right about. It could be shakespeare's prolific material, and whether it was written by him or not, or whether you can reverse drive up a one-way street. So specifically - you're wrong. ;)

    Bunks
  • lobsterlobster Veteran Veteran

    @Bunks said:
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    Is that a latter coffee? :p

    I am happy to be wrong if it makes people happy. Just as being right happily changes according to circumstance, ideally to right Being. <3

    Just as we may have established both are preferable, even inevitable, we can explore the third and fourth options ... B)

    Wisdom is a happy state. A sound mind in a sound body. However what if our body or karmic circumstances are difficult? Could we still experience happiness or equanimity? o:)

    Live long and prosper
    Vulcan Dharma =)

  • LionduckLionduck Veteran Veteran

    Bunks Australia Veteran
    Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

    I'll take the latter.....

    Me too. =) =) :)
    When asked "What is the purpose of life?", a wise man said, "To be happy."

    Bunks
  • adamcrossleyadamcrossley Veteran Veteran

    My drive to be right about things is partly perfectionism. My drive to be happy is partly fantasy.

    When I read Thich Nhat Hanh, I know that to be genuinely right and happy, I only have to let go and arrive wholeheartedly in the present moment.

    KeromeBunkslobsterVastmind
  • lobsterlobster Veteran Veteran

    Question with notice

    Awareness we might notice, allows us the spacing between the perfect fantasy that @adamcrossley mentions and the other partings between dualistic awareness ...

    In other words in not choosing but being aware, we do not have to be drawn to alternatives. In the moment we are choice.

    In other words we have no-choice.

    Happy now. Right Now.

    Bunks
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